To The Woman On The Beach Who Thanked Me For Rocking A Bikini

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By Sara Gebert – I don’t know how hard it was for you to approach me on the beach, but I know I have a hard time talking to strangers. But you waltzed up to me with such confidence that nobody would have ever expected a confidence problem with either one of us, especially since I have to carry myself with such an aura of it. You saw me for who I really was — a scared girl who was trying so hard to not let anyone see the fear in her eyes.

I don’t know if that’s why you came up to me or not, but I want to thank you. Living with a chronic illness is no easy feat, and it gets even harder when that illness changes your outer appearance as much as mine has. With clothes on, no one can tell that I’m anything but a “typical” person, but on the beach it’s a whole different story.

Everyone is exposed on the beach, but I literally have to “let it all hang out.” I have an ileostomy, a G-tube and a J-tube, not something you see every day. I’m used to them — to me they’re normal. But to everyone else, I’m something out of a science fiction movie. But you, you saw me as a person. You didn’t stare at my equipment, you looked me in the eye. And then — you thanked me.

But after speaking with you for those few short minutes, all my worries melted away. At that moment, I realized what I look like doesn’t matter…

I’m not sure you could tell, but I was stunned. I’ve had people approach me and call me gross or ask me, “Are you really going in the pool like that?” And when you came up to me, I was preparing for the worst. But what came next still has me in awe. You thanked me for rocking my bikini, told me about how you used to have an ileostomy as well and how you no longer have a large intestine. You told me I was inspiring. That honestly meant the world to me.

When I was packing for that trip, I agonized for hours about what bathing suits to bring. I actually brought every bathing suit I owned and money to buy a new one because I didn’t think I had the right one to hide everything. That morning I made a last minute decision to just wear my bikini as if I didn’t have any extra parts on my belly. I was so nervous. Every teenage girl can have body image issues, and since getting my ostomy, mine have been multiplied by 100.

We hadn’t been on the beach long when you approached me, and I was already feeling uncomfortable, thinking all eyes were on my ostomy. But after speaking with you for those few short minutes, all my worries melted away. At that moment, I realized what I look like doesn’t matter, and for the rest of vacation, my only bathing suit issue was that I had severely over packed and probably didn’t need nearly as many as I had brought!

So thank you. Thank you for restoring my faith in the good of people. Thank you for allowing me to feel comfortable in my own skin. And finally, thank you for giving me the confidence to enjoy my vacation to the fullest extent.


More About Sara

Sara_dog_cropSara is a 20-year-old woman from Pittstown, New Jersey. Two years ago, she was diagnosed with Chronic Intestinal Pseudo Obstruction (CIPO) and Gastroparesis. These conditions are so severe she is considered to be in intestinal failure. She is fed overnight straight into her heart with Total Parenteral Nutriton (IV nutrition). She has to drain her stomach 24/7 because her body is unable to contain its own digestive contents. Without the bag draining her stomach, she will throw up, sometimes over 60 times a day even on a completely empty stomach. There are only about 150 cases of CIPO diagnosed a year worldwide, and there is no cure.

In spite of her hardship, Sara formed Sara’s Army, a non-profit organization created to raise awareness and funding for her own medical treatments, as well as research towards a cure for this disease. Learn more and follow Sara’s journey here.

Thank you Sara, for sharing this beautiful piece with Women You Should Know! 

  • Julie Oakley

    THANK YOU – this is beautifully written, and many understand how you feel on the beach! Thank you for sharing this!

  • Sylvia Classic

    Brilliant! I am diagnosed with moderate to severe Crohn’s disease. I have had major surgery to remove a significant portion of my large bowel which left me with considerable scars. I have also suffered at least one bout of acute Intestinal Pseudo Obstruction immediately following a surgery to correct a hernia brought on by the first surgery. I’m thankful that after opening up my abdomen a second time, a surgeon was able to correct the condition and my digestive system has returned to my version of normal function. I absolutely understand the state of self consciousness that can surround us when our bodies don’t look like those of the people around us. I applaud your decision to take a risk and put it all out there. What an encouraging sorry!

  • Edwina Peterson Cross

    My fifty year struggle with anorexia took me through a period where I was a young, beautiful dancer and Cheerleader, who looked in the mirror (constantly) and saw something that was not there. I apologized to my dance partner every time he lifted me. “What is your problem? He would say, I hardly have to lift you at all, you fly.” My problem was body dysmorphic disorder. What I saw in the mirror was literally not what was there. My clothes from that time period are tiny, but I saw nothing but fat. Even if it is only a poor self image, every young girl is at risk, how much more so someone who has apparent medical problems such as this? The best line here is “At that moment, I realized what I look like doesn’t matter.” If every young girl could really believe this, what a difference it would make. Thank you for posting this.

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