The Open Letter That Got This Woman Banned From The Party City Facebook Page

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[UPDATE: “Party City Makes Official Statement, Then Changes Story On Facebook… And Still Fails To Contact Lin Kramer”… full details here]

On the hunt for a Halloween costume for her daughter, Party City was the first retail site Lin Kramer visited. Out of genuine concern over what she found – both a general lack of “Career Costumes” for girls, and realistic representations of the few occupations shown gone the route of “cute,” “sassy,” “sexy” – she wrote the following “Open Letter to Party City,” and posted it to their Facebook page. Party City, who is now making lots of noise about standing with nurses and pulling their ads from “The View” as they continue to sell the most insulting “nurse” costumes, chose to silence Lin. So we chose to amplify her voice…

Dear Party City,

Having just finished perusing your website for Halloween costumes for my three-year-old daughter, I am writing in the hopes that you will reconsider some of the content on your website and the antiquated views such content communicates about your company’s beliefs. In order to understand my concerns, please direct your attention to the ‘toddler costumes’ portion of your website. Compare, for instance, the ‘classic’ costumes offered for boys and girls.

doowop_cowgirl_costumeAs you can see, the classic costumes for boys include 53 assorted options, ranging from traditional vampire attire to a ‘rascal pirate’ to 16 costumes relating to possible occupations. Meanwhile, the classic costumes for girls include 45 options, ranging from a ‘vampire queen’ to a ‘precious pirate’ to three costumes relating to possible occupations. (It is worth noting that I have generously included in this number the ‘cheerleader’ as a possible occupation, despite it being well known that even NFL cheerleaders are not paid well enough for this to be their only source of income, as well as the ‘cowgirl,’ although, unlike the ‘cowboy,’ she is clearly not appropriately dressed to be employed on any sort of working ranch). To be clear, that means 30% of the costumes you market to boys are based on occupations, while just under 7% of the costumes you market to girls are based on occupations.

If the nature of my concern is not already abundantly clear, please now take the opportunity to compare the girl costume representing the occupation of a police officer to the same occupation costumes marketed for boys (see lead image above). Are you beginning to see why this might be concerning to your customers, and, well, society as a whole?

When you look around at the police officers in your city or neighborhood, the uniforms they wear are probably substantially similar to the costumes you have elected to offer for boys. However, the same cannot be said of the costume you market to girls. Generally speaking, real life uniformed female police officers do not wear short skirts and low cut shirts, but instead wear exactly the same slacks and shirts as their male counterparts. Further, while your choice to market these different costumes to different genders is remarkable in and of itself, it is worth noting that this disparate treatment was apparently at least somewhat conscious on the part of your business. I invite you, and anyone else reading this letter, to review the description of the costumes. When describing the girl costume, your marketing team elected to use language like “cute cop” and “sassy and sweet,” while for the boy costume, they chose to note the “realistic scaled-down police shirt” and assert that “this protector of the peace has it all under control!”

I am absolutely appalled that your business reinterprets girls’ innocent and well-intentioned dreams into this costume.

While Halloween costumes are undoubtedly about “make-believe,” it is unfathomable that toddler girls and boys who might be interested in dressing up as police officers are seeking to imagine themselves in the incongruent way your business apparently imagines them. Toddler girls are not imagining and hoping that they will grow up to become a ‘sexy cop’ — which is clearly what your girl costume suggests; rather, young girls, just as young boys, see and admire their family members and neighbors offering service to their communities and delight in the idea of doing the same. I am absolutely appalled that your business reinterprets girls’ innocent and well-intentioned dreams into this costume.

Finally, the thing that I would maybe most like to point out to you is this: Your company could EASILY include many, if not all, of the costumes you have in the boys’ section as options in the girls’ section as well! And in so doing, you would not only improve the message you are sending to society, but you might actually help your bottom line by selling more costumes (since little girls shopping with their parents would be more likely to see these options)! Even if you insist (and I really hope you don’t) on offering the sexualized version of costumes for little girls, you could *also* offer girls the realistic option of the same costume.

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Party City’s narrow and warped viewed of “careers” for girls extends beyond their toddler offerings.

Look at the world around you: In a world where Ronda Rousey and Danica Patrick are excelling, there are certainly girls who would be interested in that Toddler Boys Everlast Boxer Costume or that Turbo Racer Muscle Costume. Perhaps you recently read about Capt. Kristen Griest and 1st Lt. Shaye Haver, the first female graduates of Ranger School; knowing that these women were once little girls, doesn’t it seem like maybe there are girls out there today who would have some interest in the Combat Soldier Costume or the Flight Suit Costume? And surely, having observed female doctors when walking down the halls of a hospital, or female construction workers when driving down the street, or female postal workers when mailing a letter, it is reasonable to believe – both from a sociological and business perspective – that there are girls who might be interested in such costumes just as there are women who are interested in these professions.

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with little girls who enjoy and want to dress up this Halloween as a ‘Light Up Twinkler Witch,’ or a ‘Doo Wop Darling,’ or an ‘Enchanted Stars Princess,’ there is also absolutely nothing wrong with little girls who might wish to give the ‘UPS Driver’ costume or the ‘Ride in Train’ costume a try! Please, Party City, open up your view of the world and redesign your marketing scheme to let kids be kids, without imposing on them antiquated views of gender roles.

Sincerely,
Lin Kramer


Editor’s Note

Lin originally posted her open letter to Party City’s Facebook page, and the company did initially respond to her with the following reply: “Hi Lin, thank you for reaching out to us. We appreciate the insight and will consider your feedback for the future. Thank you.”

However, that response was quickly deleted from Party City’s Facebook page, along with Lin’s open letter and all the comments posted by others. They even went as far as to ban Lin from their page. She told us this morning, “Not only did they delete my letter, but they actually appear to have blocked me from being able to comment or share anything on their Facebook page.” Party City’s comments policy on their Facbeook page states, “This page is monitored in accordance with Facebook terms and conditions. Fan posts containing foul language, hate speech, or other inappropriate content are subject to removal.” Lin added, “Apparently, under their thought process, my letter falls into one of those categories.”

Just days later, Party City became the fifth major brand to pull its ads from “The View” in response to ignorant and derogatory comments made by two of the show’s hosts about nurses. We find this move incredibly ironic, since this is what Party City thinks of nurses when it comes to emulating them on Halloween. It’s painfully clear that this retailer does not practice what it preaches and #nursesmatter to them only now… when they can cash-in on the PR of someone else’s ignorance, while hiding their own.

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About The Author

lin_kramerIn addition to being a mother and wife, Lin Kramer is also an attorney who works in the public sector.

She prides herself on serving as a strong role model for her 3-year-old daughter and encouraging those around her to consciously consider the impact they can have on the world.

We want to thank her for sharing her letter with us, and for using her voice to speak out.

  • tchdab1

    Queue the reactionary whiners against political correctness, in 3… 2… 1…

    Clue (because I’m sure it’s needed): it’s not about PC. It’s our kids and our culture.

    • Andy Chia

      RIGHT ON POINT

    • TYPE O NEGATIVE

      No it’s not ugly.

      Not everything has to be YOUR WAY

    • Mark WIlkins

      they just look like funny costumes, supposed to make you laugh. Anyone who has any perverse thoughts is their problem

      • I’m looking at the pose that the “toddler girl” is making and I have to beg to differ. That is just plain creepy.

      • Quinn Harbin

        Whoever CREATED these costumes has a problem.

  • Raydeen Graffam

    http://takebackhalloween.org/category/costumes/ They’re doing a GREAT job of changing Halloween into something truly awesome!

  • Jenkins

    Brava!! Thank you for being a leader, Lin!

  • Alecta

    Thank you Lin!

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  • TheGeneral

    The epitome of first world problems.

    Want a costume for your child buy it. The clothes will fit any child regardless of the gender label on it.

    They label them based on their sales and marketing. Not made up nonsense. … now back to real issues.

    • MNMann

      While you minimize this issue, that is your choice.
      Your views are dismissive and insulting, this is my opinion.
      When you have something of substance to say, why not post it, otherwise, why not keep your nonsense unimportant opinions to yourself

      • NormalisHominis

        Hang on. The entire article is about one woman’s nonsense unimportant opinion and you’re complaining that a commenter has a nonsense unimportant opinion?

        That is the internet for you.

        • Wendy McCarthy

          And she thinks only her opinion is worth spouting…

          • And you’re a sellout. Way to go.

          • Andy Chia

            Feminist movement can’t get anywhere because of idiots like you who spout bullshit and can’t back up their claims without using an incredible amount of bullshit logic. Way to be a bigot Dana. You are one of the reasons why people can’t take feminists seriously when you can’t argue a simple point without bringing personal emotions and toxicity to the conversation…

          • Rose Heels

            WFT do you know about feminism when you’re justifying the marketing of sexy outfits to children? Idiot.

          • Andy Chia

            Your double standards are hilarious. Keep talking out of your ass. Sexy is on the eye of a beholder. If you truly believe that marketing a dress in a cop outfit is sexy you’re something special

          • Rose Heels

            OK misogynist dork. If you can’t understand how clothes and costumes sexualize girls then you are hopeless. Stick with the little boys talking about gaming and star wars; leave the gender politics to the adults.

          • I think this is the kind of guy that wonders why he can’t get a second date but claims that he’s “a Nice Guy”.

          • Arika Browne

            toxicity?

          • “because of idiots like you who spout bullshit and can’t back up their claims without using an incredible amount of bullshit logic.” Followed with, “bigot”.

            Someone needs a dictionary. Also, show us on the doll where the bad lady touched you, Andy. You’d got some deep pain, dude.

        • It’s NOT a nonsense unimportant opinion. Yours is though.

      • ritabug30

        I think one persons opinion is just as important as the next persons. You are the one being dismissive and insulting.

        • MNMann

          The General sais it is made up nonsense, he is disrespecting the OP, When you crap on someone’s opinion saying it is nonsense and not a real issue, you deserve to be dismissed and insulted

          • ritabug30

            I am sorry, but I am going to have to disagree with you. Best of luck, there are waaay more important issues than this. We are on this earth for such a short time, to spend it being unkind is a waste of that precious time.

          • Jeff Wells

            Caring about things is not a finite resource. I can care about this, and starving children, and war brewing with Iran all at the same time.

            Grow up.

          • ritabug30

            Jeff, I do 100% agree with you, caring about things is not a finite resource thank God. And as for growing up, perhaps it is you who should look into that. See you later, won’t be responding to anymore of your trash talk.

          • Jeff Wells

            You agree, then call it trash? How about admitting you were being childish and recognize that subtle gender stereotypes that imply women should not be part of the work force is actually a serious issue facing our culture today?

            Again I say, grow up.

          • Arika Browne

            Jeff, your posts are spot on. There are so many layers to this issue. A little controversy is a good thing, even though some folks are getting too personal and emotional.

          • Why don’t you try leading by example, Crystal Twinkie. Quit huffing that colloidal silver, it’ll poison ya.

          • ritabug30
          • If you think the costume issue is so unimportant, why are you here? If anyone was unkind it was Party City and now we’e got trolls piling up on what PC already did. What IS it with you New Age dweebs anyway? You ALWAYS side with the bully.

          • Leo

            No, read the post. He is not saying the letter is nonsense; he’s saying the marketing is based on specific demand rather than on nonsense.

          • That’s not the way the American market works. They spend as much time manufacturing demand as they do responding to it. Unless you want to tell me you have wanted an iPhone for your entire life. iPhones came out in 2007 so if they’ve been around your whole life, you don’t belong on the Internet.

            There’s LOTS of demand for girls’ costumes that are nonsexist. These companies just don’t care.

          • TheGeneral

            Its called risk, when you make a new product. Come on . Get with the economics .

          • Showing my age

            Dana, the solution is to go start a business that supplies and markets the products you’re describing. If there’s lots of demand, the business model should be a piece of cake.

            Everybody wins – you make money, customers are happy, and Party City gets a stick in the eye for not being a better retailer.

            Let me know when you get started.

          • Jennifer Pirrone

            While this seems sarcastic (and I apologize if that was not your intention) this is actually an excellent idea. Obviously, a small business’ success is also dependent on the amount of available resources, but things like this need to happen if anything is ever going to change. If consumers want options, we need to be ready to patronize small businesses who are shaking things up-even if that means paying a little more.

            On a side note, I went through my childhood rocking homemade costumes for the same reason. My mother would’ve died before dressing me up as a sexy anything, and I always wanted to be something weird like an elephant or a skeleton. My point is, there’s always that option if you want to stick it to big companies.

          • Showing my age

            It actually wasn’t sarcastic. It’s blunt and direct. If she wants to do something about it, she should DO something about it.

          • Jennifer Pirrone

            After posting this, I realized that both of my comments were on something you posted. I’m sorry I assumed sarcasm, I definitely agree with your points made here! 🙂

          • Showing my age

            No worries. These comment boards are riddled with cruelty and sarcasm, so assuming it isn’t a bad idea. I use plenty of sarcasm, but never about business.

            I see this as a simple business problem. I understand why Mom was miffed, but I would rather see her channel her energy into something more productive. See Sarah Blakely as an example.

          • Arika Browne

            That’s right, what is sold is not about demand. Unfortunately, there are a lot of assumptions that our market is driven by demand.

          • Arika Browne

            It is not based on demand.

          • Showing my age

            So, you were being dismissive and insulting, but it was the right thing to do because it was.

            Got it.

    • This *is* a real issue. It starts with minor stuff like this, they get away with it, they do worse later. But thanks for being an ally to little girls, it’s not like they’ve ever done anything to you.

      • TheGeneral

        its really not a real issue. Boys have been legally mutilated in this country for years. but the first article they make is about a Halloween costume. I guess i could say it starts with the little things too huh ? I will never be an “ally” keep that shit for your sexist groups of feminists that love excluding others.

        Where i’m from we are in this shit together side by side and destin to make a difference. I make difference in little girls AND boys lives by showing them they can be anything they want to be and do anything they want to do.

        I don’t empower, i give knowledge to push the boundaries and fix the problems the right way. knowledge is the ultimate power, and motivation is the ultimate way to utilize that power.

        • Pi

          “we are in this shit together side by side”

          “its really not a real issue.” “I will never be an “ally” [to little girls]”

          Yeah, you’re in this shit on your own.

          • TheGeneral

            only you. leave the real work to the people doing something. instead of spreading bullshit. you’ll be fine. when you want to join up in making a real difference in fields such as STEM related , and Research And development get back to us. Tell me how those Halloween clothes labels are helping.

          • Pi

            Unlike people such as yourself, I have the capability of caring about and acting on many issues. 🙂 And I have the benefit of having the slightest clue about psychology and sociology!

    • TheGeneral

      Irony is that when feminists bring up an issue like this they say , it does not matter the severity, they can all be talked about.

      If you bring up a post about men being raped or beaten , they say women being raped and beaten is a more important issue and deserves the focus.

      This post was placed to demonstrate that double standard and it did a great job of doing so.

      So you are correct, so stop minimizing male rape, male circumcision and all those issues that are minimized on a daily basis by feminists .

      I am glad you participated in this bait/truth

      Checkmate

      • Leila

        No, they don’t say it is more important. The say stop posting “but what about meeeeeeeen” on every freaking article talking about an issue and how it affects women. THAT is called derailment and erasure which you are conflating with having double standards. Feminists care about all victims of rape and violence, but they don’t want people coming in and derailing a conversation when speaking about a specific marginalized group. To be fair, feminism has its own internal issue with this and intersectionality so we aren’t setting a good example. Every time someone brings up an issue and how it affects women of color, a white feminists has to go “what about white womeeeeeeeeeen” or when we speak on LGBTQ+ women issues, “but what about cis het womeeeeeeen”. Which yeah, these issues affect cis/het/white women, too, but that’s not what the discussion is about. Try to understand, please.

      • Rose Heels

        Yeah this is a text book case of misogyny. Start with his stupid name “The General”. He clearly has a thing against feminists and women in general. Can’t stop whining about how men also have it bad, as if any focus on women’s issues is an attack against men. Poor little crying penis sounding like one of those #alllivesmatter goof balls.

        • TheGeneral

          aww so cute darling. you have more poor attempt at insults or are you done ?

          • Arika Browne

            What makes you think people who feel protective of children and strive for gender equality, are feminist?

          • Rose Heels

            What’s cute is your bad spelling and grammar lil dick. What’s the problem, can’t handle a little joking around? Grow a pair.

          • TheGeneral

            still so mad. lol

          • Rose Heels

            haha I eat weak men like you for breakfast, so not mad but I love that you can’t help responding to me when I’m fucking with you 🙂

          • I think it’s cute that he keeps replying to himself. He’s his own lil echo chamber.

    • TheGeneral

      Feminist logic #2005

      Le random: “Men and boys are failing
      school at alarming rates and are ignored in domestic violence cases
      constantly. their rights are breached at birth also.”

      Fem: “Women
      are victims majority of the time and experience far more issues than
      men. We should place our focus on them and their issue for the most
      part, while other victims exist they aren’t a priority”

      Le random: “The color of toys based on gender is not all that important
      compared to countries where children have larger issues such as
      starvation , famine , lack of resources . We should focus on those life
      threatening issues first.

      Fem: “You’re such a misogynist, i can
      care about all the issues at the same time , stop minimizing everything
      i talk about, this deserves focus because i said so. You just want to
      derail the topic”

      Does not know if can’t make up mind about logic, is too obtuse to see double standards, or just oblivious in general.

      • Pi

        Would you like more straw to build your straw feminists?

        • TheGeneral

          thousands of screen shots of that shit. Give me an email if you want them . Far from straw as you state. Thousands and thousands of others also call this behavior and double standard out. Save us the shit.

          • Pi

            So because you care about men’s issues, you also stand with the men that scream that feminists should be raped and murdered. That’s what you’re telling me here.

  • Evie

    This isn’t related to the part about kids, but the adult women’s nurse costumes (as shown above) are “sexy nurses” because, in my experience, many women WANT to dress sexy (no matter what the occupation or theme). It’s one of the only holidays where it’s acceptable to dress “scandalous” or flirty and many women like to dress that way at a party.. maybe to attract someone, or just for fun, I don’t know. I agree that it is odd to depict a nurse as a sexy/naughty nurse, but the point isn’t to accurately depict a nurse. If you want to be a “regular nurse” for Halloween, then buy a pair of scrubs and a stethoscope. Also, some little girls want to dress as the “cutesy” cowboy, instead of authentic cowboy attire. Party City sells their costumes for a reason.. there is a demand for them. Like someone commented below, if you want the regular cop outfit or whatnot, just buy the “boy” one. It’s all sales & marketing, not accuracy.

    • AR

      I agree. I wish the author had left out that last section of the article and left it about children’s costumes. Us adults can choose to sexualize ourselves or not, but children often just want a costume of something they dream of being when they are older. I wanted to be an astronaut when I was a girl. “Cute and pretty” NASA astronaut doesn’t work on any level. These days would they put an astronaut costume in the girls section at all?

      • Alex

        A couple of thoughts: that’s the whole point… how sad that there is even a question as to whether an astronaut suit could be sold in the “girls” section (in the early 60s, Jerrie Cobb tested better than any of the men when the US started selecting astronauts for the first manned space mission, Valentina Tereshkova went to space in 1963, Sally Ride in 1983, Eileen Collins commanded the Space Shuttle in 1999). And the last section of the article, which was not written by the author of the letter, but rather the editor, makes an equally important point that echoes the sentiment of the woman’s letter. Consider that PC is getting positive news headlines now for “standing with nurses” by publicly declaring they are “taking a break” from advertising on “The View” in reaction to the controversy Joy Behar and another one of their talking heads started last week about nurses. So they are riding the moral high horse, but all of PC’s “nurse” costumes are probably equally if not more offensive to the profession of nursing than what was said on “The View”. So here you have a company that is grand standing and basking in the glow of positive press by speaking out against “The View”, when rather than listen and/or properly respond to a customer, who expressed legit concerns (very politely, and professionally) over the types of products they are marketing to little girls/how the few career costume options they offer are depicted for girls, they shut her down (deleted/banned). So this has nothing, at all, to do with adult costumes/adult choices. But it has everything to do with how this company is talking out of both sides of its mouth. It certainly does not “stand with nurses” let alone with women and girls.

      • Alexandra

        It’s about not having a choice.

  • caroline

    Seriously? If they made the police officer costume accurate, it would be the same as the boys. So instead of complaining about the adorable police officer dress, which I do not see as inappropriate , just buy the boy version.

    • Claire in NZ

      Do you really think a little girl, looking for costumes with her mother online, wants to choose from the Boys’ section? Do you even know any little girls?

      • Naomi

        Depends on the little girl. Mine is 5 and she doesn’t care as long as it is the costume she wants. She ended up with the “boys” version of the police officer. But I agree that they should just market it as Police Officer and not assign a gender to it.

      • Zeke2112

        My 11-year-old daughter knows that she can pick whatever costume she wants and that the gender on the packaging is just a suggestion. Of course, we teach her about self-confidence and she has the self esteem she needs to ignore gender stereotypes.

        Perhaps the author needs to stop demanding the world change for her little snowflake and teach her kid to make up her own mind.

        • Birgit Nicolaisen

          You know…if women hadn’t kicked up a fuss and demanded the world change for all the little snowflakes in the world…we probably wouldn’t be able to vote either.

          • Bingo.

          • Sandra Deffner

            Not all women did that and a lot of us were not even born during that movement .

          • Rose Heels

            So? You weren’t alive for the creation of the Constitution but you are guaranteed rights because of it. You should appreciate that so many women did stand up at a time when it was dangerous to do so.

          • Sandra Deffner

            Not when I dont belive in it. Just because im a woman doesnt mean I agree or want what they wanted .

          • Arika Browne

            Of course you want what they wanted. Freedom, equality, voice. We have come to far to be saying things like this.

          • Rose Heels

            So you’re saying you don’t want the right to vote? In your case I would say that’s really for the best then.

          • Sandra Deffner

            So your putting words in my mouth . Thats just what im saying here is that I did non of those things so do not say that because I am a woman that I agree with everything they ” fought” for . I was not there do not place any blame on me for anything they did or even give me credit for what they did that I do agree with . maybe you like being blamed for things you had nothing to do with or for taking credit for others doing but I dont .

          • Arika Browne

            Doh

          • Sandra Deffner

            Yes Homer I know when I was born and I know what I belive I have my own opinions Im not a sheep like you

          • Audrey Lively

            excellent Birgit.

        • Perhaps your mommy should stop letting you onto the computer until you are actually 13 and legally allowed to be here.

      • ritabug30

        thank you, you are correct!!! My 8 yr old daughter would not be interested in buying from the boys section. She would be embarrassed. That said I am sure there are girls who wouldn’t care. Why is this become an issue?

        • Why are you defending bullies and sexists?

          • ritabug30

            i didn’t think I was, said politely

        • Rose Heels

          Gee, I wonder who taught her to feel shame like that? Good job, mom.

          • ritabug30

            You know, I am sick of people who assume a lot they don’t know. If my daughter is attracted to dresses, sparkles and pink, that is just who she is. I myself was a tomboy growing up, didnt care too much for barbies and the like. I hated to wear dresses and tights were a nightmare. My daughter loves that stuff, insists on wearing a dress every day when I recommend shorts or pants. That is who I was and this is who she is. Sometimes people just like what they like. You can’t force that.

    • AR

      You have missed the point of message. What message does it send to children both genders that a girl has to shop in the boys section to get realistic costumes for a profession they dream of going into?

    • ritabug30

      totally totally agree!

    • ritabug30

      agreed

    • When have you ever seen a female police officer in a uniform dress? You haven’t. There isn’t anything cute about it, it’s infantilizing. How about remarket the “boy version” (which is actually everyone’s version) for BOTH boys and girls.

    • Jen

      I was thinking the same think Caroline!

    • Arika Browne

      Did you read her post? I don’t think she was complaining about the adorable police officer dress.

    • Audrey Lively

      okay, put a little girl in the authentic uniform also, that way they wont fall prey to

      the marketing teams that divide outfits by gender and think they don’t belong in a “boy” costume.

  • Birgit Nicolaisen

    Thank you for speaking out for all our girls. Shame on Party City! Maybe they could learn from Target and just have “children’s costumes”….

    • Wendy McCarthy

      Or maybe parents can get whatever they want. They are not limited to just one gender of costumes. It’s called shopping.

      • Birgit Nicolaisen

        Or maybe you can continue to close your eyes to the sexualization of our girls. Have you tried to buy a non-sexy costume for a tween or teenage girl? Practically impossible. Very sad comment on our society.

        • ritabug30

          I do think the over serialization of many tween costumes or even regular cloths is ridiculous.

        • Wendy McCarthy

          Close my eyes? Yes I’ve bought several costumes for young girls. I have a daughter and I have grand daughters. Your comment is ridiculous. It is not practically impossible, it’s called shopping. If your little girl wants the boys cop outfit, get her the cop outfit. That easy. No need to raise a ruckus over it. It’s not victimizing girls at all. Girls are being offered the more effeminate version is all. Because most normal females want the more girly option. Judging by your profile pic and your comment, you’re one of the few who wanted the boy version. So what? Does everyone need to know about it and why?

          • Birgit Nicolaisen

            Guess you have access to better stores than we do that have appropriate non sexualized costumes for girls. My DD asked about being Evie from Descendants, but that costume only goes to size 10-12 for girls. Her only option for her size is to be Maleficent in a costume that isn’t appropriate for 13 year olds, but that’s it. Happy Halloween!

          • shadine rexer

            i must have missed the part where this was inappropriate

          • Birgit Nicolaisen

            Which “this” do you mean? There’s a lot of things been talked about here.

          • ems

            So, for you ‘girly’ is low cut, skirts, etc.? Or sexualized in a way that makes their availability to boys or men clear (your comments reveal your homophobia)? The author is asking why ‘girly’ can’t reflect the way actual women cops (nurses, etc.) dress? Why is a normal nurses uniform, or a normal women’s cop outfit not feminine enough?

          • shadine rexer

            this i agree with also what happens when say they do make all these costumes equal and do away with the dress what if my little girl dosnt want to wear those pants and wants the dress what do i tell her?

          • Brittany Kozura

            The article says offer both options to girls, it says nothing about taking them away.

          • Rose Heels

            Well then go ahead and dress your children in “sexy” outfits. Way to go, mom.

          • Slytherpuff

            Girls who don’t want to be dressed in a skirt aren’t normal?

          • Showing my age

            Wendy, you were on your way to a good point until you went racing down the homophobe highway. I agree that creative shopping can solve some of this, but you lost my vote when you described the behavior of ‘normal’ females.

            Females come in all shapes and sizes these days. My daughter likes skirts as casual clothing, but she’s smart enough to know what a cop looks like in real life. Female cops don’t dress like boys – they dress like cops.

          • Brittany Kozura

            Excuse me, “most normal girls”? So there is something abnormal with a girl wanting to wear a realistic costume?

          • Wendy McCarthy

            You’re looking for a fight, but I’ll respond anyway. Yes, “most normal girls” want the girl option. Because they’re girls. They want to look girly. However, I did point out that if she wants the boy version it’s there for the taking. Why does there need to be a ruckus about it? My daughter wore boy clothes as a young teen because she had big boobs and was embarrassed by it. I didn’t throw a fit or write a letter as to why aren’t there girl clothes that look just like boy clothes…blah blah blah. Instead I did the adult thing and went to the boys section to buy from. Easy as that. Why is there a problem? That is my point and I’m not sure where the argument lies. If you do a study of GIRLS, the majority of them do girly things, want to look girly, act girly, etc. they are girls. There are few who think they are boys, but they still have the option of purchasing the alternate.

          • Brittany Kozura

            That is completely untrue. You are part of the problem in the continued existence of overgendering in our society.

          • Wendy McCarthy

            If you have a vagina, your a GIRL! If you have a penis, you’re a BOY! Simple…I’m not the problem here because I think you can buy what you want to buy. You are the problem because you want to bitch about everything and call it sexualization, feminism. The fact is, it’s not the child wanting something else, it’s the parent. and if the child wants something else, get it. I never said dress your girls sexy! But come on…be intelligent enough to make a choice and not bitch all the time.

          • It’s not about that: I’ve seen an Avengers Black Widow costume that is a dress. Black Widow wears a bodysuit, NOT A SKIRT. That is not an accurate costume. Why do the boys get accurate ones and the girls don’t?

          • Wendy McCarthy

            You’re looking for a fight but I’ll go ahead and respond.
            Yes, most normal “females” is what I said. Girls like dresses, pretty things, dressing up. They’re girls. That’s what normal girls do, act like girls. There are the few who want to believe they’re boys, their mothers can choose to shop in the boys section. No one is stopping you. No one said anything was wrong with a girl wanting a realistic costume, so you get her the realistic one…meanwhile the majority of girls will be purchasing the cute, frilly option, cuz that’s what girls do. Just because there are very few girl/boys out there doesn’t mean that a company should cater to the few because they feel like crying about everything. Buck up. Grow a pair and for the love of God quit whining about everything.

      • Pi

        There are children who refuse to do things that are “meant for” the other gender, refuse to wear clothes that are “meant for” the other gender, etc., because they’re still learning about the world and use cultural context clues such as “Girl’s costumes” as markers of what’s expected of them. There are parents that would rather die than buy a boy’s t-shirt for a girl even when they’re so young it makes no difference, but would buy it if it was the exact same shirt but “for girls”.

        Saying “well they CAN make different choices!” is complete nonsense when it comes to sociological, structural changes.

      • This is true but what will wind up happening is that if enough of us parents do that, these asshats will assume there is no market for career costumes for girls and just concentrate on marketing them to boys.

        FYI, I was at JoAnn Fabrics the other day in their costume aisles and THEY market their stuff to both sexes. And the firefighter costume I saw had pants on it, thank you.

        • Andy Chia

          Those “career costumes” don’t sell at all. Party city has tried them many times over the years to test their popularity. Unfortunately from a seller’s perspective they cater to trendy popular costumes that sell and appeal to the majority and that sincerely outweighs the complaining idiots like you who want the variety “equal gender costumers” but aren’t willing to actually spend the money to provide the demand for them to be feasible in the market. Its like demanding a firefighter costume for girls with no absolute difference to the boys except for having a girl on the cover (No skirt btw). What is the point of making that when you can buy the boy’s version of the costume which is identical? That is the truth of the matter please accept it and stop making yourself look dumber than you already are.

          • Annie Penrose-Angley

            Andy, I think you have missed the point. There clearly IS a market for – let’s call them “realistic” – career outfits. You know, those ones they show boys in. That if a girl and a boy did that job later in life they would be wearing. What is so wrong with having the costume shown on a boy and a girl on the packaging… What is so wrong with saying that it is a boy’s size blah and a girl’s size blah?

            The truth of the matter is that girls and boys are not the same, however, if there is a career costume for a child it should be an accurate representation of that occupation – for boys OR girls. NOT an over sexualised ridiculous outfit that no career person would wear in a pink fit. These are meant to be CHILDREN’S outfits. Most of the outfits I see on the link for girls would be only suitable for wear for a career in a brothel or strip club.

          • Bill Hicks

            “There clearly IS a market for – let’s call them “realistic” – career outfits.”

            Are you sure about that? If there is, why isn’t there a company meeting that demand? If you’re saying that you are more aware of the market than the people whose full-time job is to be aware of it, maybe you should consider going into that industry and making a killing.

          • Annie Penrose-Angley

            My definition of a “market” is someone wanting to buy something. Clearly your definition doesn’t match. If this woman, and others who have commented want to buy normal looking costumes, not sex worker mini costumes for their three year old daughters then there is a market by my definition.

            And maybe I should go into selling kids costumes or designing them. Oh wait, maybe I already do design kids clothing, albeit in a different forum… or maybe one shouldn’t make assumptions about whom one is talking about. A comment is just a snapshot of a person’s thoughts. It doesn’t tell you what their background knowledge is.

          • Bill Hicks

            Sounds like you are indeed fulfilling the demand, then. Well done! And we are absolutely using the same definition of market.

          • Arika Browne

            Stop thinking in black and white. Consumers are limited by the suppliers, fact of economics.

          • Bill Hicks

            When enough demand exists, suppliers will fill it, because that’s how they make money. Failing to do so means they lose money. THIS is the fact of economics.

          • Brittany Kozura

            Disney/Pixar is. They stopped gendering their costumes due to market demand.

          • Brittany Kozura

            It is also not just the packaging, but also the marketing, and the fact they are in different sides of the store. To get a realistic costume, girls must go to the ‘boys’ section.

          • Dude, do you work for Party City? Are you their marketing research manager, sent out on a mission to troll news sites to illicit responses and gather valuable data?

            No?

            Then STFU about what Party City does or does not think sells.

          • Bryar Shorewood

            You could just have a picture with both genders on the packaging.
            On that note, who are you to say that they have tried it and they don’t sell. Do you work in Party City’s marketing department? Or perhaps a products designer with designs that have both flourished and failed along the guidelines that you have stated?

      • Arika Browne

        Really? Well, All things being equal as you suggest, what I want is to dress my three little boys up in sex clothes….. Where would you suggest I shop for this attire?

  • I understand what she was getting at, but I think that if she was a little less attacking in her letter, then she would have gotten a better response.

    Also, I think that Party City might have been a little butt-hurt not only by the frankness of her post, but also in the choice that she put in on their page for all to see rather than making it a discreet letter, but hey, they are a company and need to put their big boy britches on.

    I understand a lot more about things like this ever since I went into business for myself. It also helps that I am in a very similar business as Party City.

    To tell you the the truth, the main reason for the two differences in the uniforms is not about objectification. It is about choice.

    It is not cost effective to have a boys and girls police uniform that are basically the same, but scaled down versions. They would be spending double the money of the same costumes when there is little if any difference in little boys and girls bodies, at that age. I’m sure that if you were to ask Party City execs how what the mother that wrote this letter should do if she wants a boys version uniform for her little girl, they would suggest that they buy it.

    This practice extends into other aspects of business. Even with Flintstones vitamins, almost all of the characters are represented in the vitamins except Betty, simply because there was not enough difference between the appearances of Wilma and Betty to merit different molds for the vitamins.

    As for the objectification, I’m sure that Lin Kramer noticed that the elements that could be considered feminine or sexy were gradually applied to the female versions of the costumes as the age range increased. This also plays into not only the need for modesty for children, but also choice, once again.

    Basically, they make the sexier version costumes because there IS a demand for it. They would not make them if there was not.

    Also, once again, I think that Party City would say that if you were a woman and you wanted the other costume, get the “men’s” version.

    While companies like Party City might not want to spend the money to make women’s versions of costumes of the men’s that would be very similar, perhaps they could explore labeling the costumes as “Version 1” and “Version 2,” rather than “Boys” and “Girls.” That way they could offer the selection they want, without predisposing each style to a sex?

    That is what I would do if I had such direct and personalised selective power of my supply line.

    *shrugs shoulders*

    • Birgit Nicolaisen

      Precisely why they make “blue” and “pink” versions of the same toy…to make more money. The world is not “blue” and “pink”…it’s more of a rainbow hue, so why not let toys reflect that?

      • I’m sorry, Birgit, I don’t follow what you are saying.

      • Birgit Nicolaisen

        Sorry I was trying to build on your idea of version 1 and version 2 to make more money. I was trying to explain that with kids toys they now make “pink” for girls and “blue” for boys versions even in toddler toys to make more money… and God forbid you have a boy play with the pink or the girl with the blue…you need to buy a new one and compartmentalize them into the world of “boys” vs “girls” and don’t cross that line…. Hope that made more sense.

  • Maria Perez

    I just posted the link to this page on their FB page…let’s see what they do to me! LOL

    • Wendy McCarthy

      Yeah, let’s stir the pot and cause problems!

  • Wendy McCarthy

    For the love of God! Get real! If a parent wants to purchase a boys costume for their daughter no one is stopping them. This sexist BS is getting old!good grief…can some people just get a grip already…

    • ritabug30

      amen sister!

    • Arika Browne

      If it is not sexist, then I want to know why I cannot find an equal selection, or any at all, sexual costumes for little boys, but a market flooded with sexualized clothing for little girls. That is exactly what a gender stereotype is.

  • Chan5

    I can’t stand the fact that all girls costumes have to be short dresses and skirts!!! Women police officers don’t wear short skirts, Fire-women don’t wear short skirts, hell Nurses don’t even wear short skirts so why are we sexualizing our young girls to be sexy, sassy and whatever other words they want to use. I understand most little girls like wearing dresses which is fine but lets not make them shorty with knee socks or tall boots!!! It’s bad enough that the women super hero’s we have for girls are all basically naked in the comics or wearing skin tight leather this or that. Kids should be able to wear any costume they want if a girl wants to wear the muscle bound Hulk costume why not? She doesn’t have to be a “She Hulk” she can just freaking be the Damn HULK!!!

    • ritabug30

      I agree that a lot of girls like wearing dresses, maybe the solution is just to make them longer.

      • Jeff Wells

        Dress length is not the problem. Pay attention.

        • Naomi

          Whoa. Unnecessary attack. People are talking about sexualizing young girls and making the skirt longer could be one piece of a multi-faceted solution.

          • Jeff Wells

            What attack? And if you think the problem is with sexualizing the costumes, you need to read the entire article over again and pay closer attention. I’ll spell it outsince you seem to take everything as an attack and probably won’t take the time to re-read the article: the issue is with the gender stereotype that implies little girls should not want to be real police officers or firefighters or doctors or engineers. The problem isn’t that the skirts are too short. The problem is that skirts are the only option.

          • Naomi

            Telling someone to “Pay attention” isn’t exactly respectful discourse. Maybe you two have some kind of comment history that I don’t know about but it didn’t seem like an earnest response to someone’s post. And what else do I “seem to take everything as an attack”? I’ve posted on this website a total of three times.

          • Police women don’t wear skirts. Making them longer doesn’t change that. “Little girls like to wear skirts” — irrelevant.

          • MrNoelJMIS

            “little girls like to wear skirts– irrelevant.”
            …unless you are a BUSINESS trying to SELL THINGS to lots of people. I understand that there are lots of women who, because of their life experiences, are upset by femininity, but the majority of women and girls do not like to appear tough and rugged…I tend to think that the “macho” image of men is pushed on boys by too many men and women around them, but most boys and men DO want to appear tough and avoid softer images like the plague. But THAT is the issue. If you want society to be more balanced in gender-based products, more families need to teach their kids in that way so it changes the majority view, and therefore, the products offered. If “sexy nurse” didn’t sell, companies WOULD NOT make it. Trust me. Because most things that I like don’t sell very well, and they disappear fast! LOL!

          • Annie Penrose-Angley

            Just because a woman wants a realistic representation of a career costume it does not mean that they are upset by femininity.

          • Andy Chia

            But some extremists expect these realistic representations of career costumes to be options for purchase even though chances are pretty high no one will want to buy them because they aren’t trendy or in demand.

          • Amy Brunolli

            How can you know whether they are in demand or not if the majority of the costume stores don’t have realistic representations and their response to inquiries is to shut the consume down? In order for something to be in demand or become trendy it needs to be offered first. Sure there are some retailers online and there is the option of making your own costume but that also sends the message of “go look elsewhere it’s not our problem.” Yes the mother’s daughter being a toddler might be too young to understand all of the packaging but she is certainly aware of what gender is and can tell the difference between a girl and a boy. As a toddler she might not care and because of her body shape she can probably get away with wearing a boys costume but this Mom wrote for the FUTURE of her daughter. Children are not just a product of their parents; it’s easy to write off any argument as “don’t make us do your parenting” or “your being a bad parent by letting your child be affected by packaging/advertising.” But like I said children, developmentally speaking, are a product of their environment, where they grow up, where they live, what schools are in their community, what resources are available to them, what culture they belong to, and most certainly who their parents are as well as their biological genetic makeup. It’s not Lazy as a parent to make a case against a society that is pushing a certain imagine without allowing a second option to test the demand of that product, it’s lazy for society to say “not our problem” when our society is literally creating the society our children will be a part of. As that girl gets older, even as young as 5, despite her Mom doing everything in her power to explain it being okay to wear the boys costume, it is still a hard concept to grasp for her developing brain “I’m a girl. Mom says it’s okay to wear this costume but it’s for boys. I’m not a boy.” She might be conflicted because she’s hearing one message from her Mom and then a flurry of messages from society telling her that the costume is for boys so she settles for the girly sassy police officer because it’s got a girl on it and she’s a girl. And as someone said, as she gets older girl’s bodies are shaped different then boys, so “don’t be lazy, just go boy it in the boys section” does not become a valid argument. Children are smart enough to make those connections but their brains are not developed enough to understand the much larger complex situation so the Mother is merely asking for more options for girls that depict a more realistic career! This doesn’t mean the cutesy skirt outfits have to go altogether, but the option needs to be available to them in the first place before someone can say there is no demand for it. That being said I also think that Boys need far more fantasy related costumes as well; as you read above a majority of boy costumes are occupation related which doesn’t allow our little boys the same freedom to explore their imaginations and be creative like our little girls can. So the issue goes both ways, it’s not about extreme feminism, it’s about creating a more understanding society for our children so they CAN be whatever they want without being limited by stereotypical gender roles we place on them.

          • Andy Chia

            Costumes are tested based on sales… Whether or not they sell impact their relevance and priority on the shelves during Halloween season. Any company with common sense isn’t going to bother risking putting more “OPTIONS” for people to choose when they can up sell the trendy items that will guarantee a profit. Give girls more options over cash cowing an Elsa costume? I’m sorry but from a sales perspective they are doing it right. Sure they can add more options of costumes no one will buy, there’s no lucrative incentive or reason to do that when there is absolutely 0 demand for it. Its funny people seem to hate stereotyping and complain of its negative impacts… but honestly speaking stereotypes are pretty much true. Further more these costumes sell like hotcakes… Why do you think they keep cranking them out non stop? You’d think if they were this awful in general people would STOP buying them right? That’s not how it works. These stores exist to cater to the majority of patrons who want certain items. Not the tiny percentage of people who are complaining about something they had no intention of spending money on to begin with. That’s the truth. People are in denial how supply and demand works. Lets pull Elsa costumes off of the shelves and push some “REALISTIC” costume options that the majority consumers couldn’t give a shit about. Sounds like an awesome plan. Go open your own Halloween store and let me know how long you last before you file for bankruptcy. Can’t fix stupid.

          • Amy Brunolli

            I’m not trying to say your point of view is false or not valid because you have every right to your opinion and how you personally raise your daughters and make choices for them is entirely up to you. I’m merely talking about things from a child development standpoint and as an early childhood educator. I don’t think it’s unbiased or neutral to call someone’s concerns a complaint or say that because they have these complaints that they are stupid and need to just accept things how they are because that’s how it is and if you don’t like it then tough, which is how you are coming across. Maybe that is not your intention, but in saying things like “can’t fix stupid” and implying that anyone with concerns should just open their own Halloween store, that is the point of view you are putting across which, again, may not be your intention. I don’t think this Mother was asking for them to bow to her and change the store and how they do things just for her, she was just trying to bring awareness to an issue she saw that I’m sure she felt others in her circle or community also saw which is what prompted her to speak up. Just because something works a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the ONLY way and as educators we are taught to always be skeptical and find new ways to approach learning and understanding and that it is considered best practices when working with children to always be an advocate for them. I was simply commenting to illustrate that advertising/packaging/society does play an impact on child development and to make unfounded claims that it doesn’t and write it off as laziness of the parents can lead to false assumptions. I didn’t come here to argue or write off other people’s opinions, as I said before, I’m just weighing in on subject from the standpoint of a child development major and educator of young children. I’m not saying party city needs to bow to this woman’s demands but it is important to bring awareness to the issues children face in today’s society and especially when faced with as much negativity I’ve seen in these comments alone. Hope you have a great rest of your day and I apologize if, when giving my opinion, it was in any way offensive to you as that was not my intention in the slightest.

          • Andy Chia

            So basically you’re saying our society places awful examples for children to follow so we’re going to blame the Halloween store for not catering to our needs as responsible parents to provide better examples of what not to follow? LOL. Last time I checked our society is pretty much a double standard for everything. I’m all for creativity and higher learning for our children but its a Halloween store that exists to make a profit. They aren’t here purely on the request for providing “Realistic Costumes” to promote a positive gender friendly environment. The BOTTOM LINE is, if we simply removed gender labels on ALL costumes we’ll still have this argument regardless. Disney and Target have removed genders on their clothing lines and costumes and you still have feminists (what a coincidence) complaining about gender equality. Show me a Halloween store that sells these “Options” that provide equal amounts of costumes for both sexes and then explain to me why they filed for bankruptcy.

          • JamieHaman

            Sexy nurse costumes for adults are not the problem. It’s the sexy for litle girls, and the inappropriate attire for them that’s off the mark. Girls may like wearing dresses, but Halloween can be cold too. Pants are better, and a whole LOT more realistic anyway.

          • Now THAT’S a silly statement: “I understand that there are lots of women who, because of their life experiences, are upset by femininity, but the majority of women and girls do not like to appear tough and rugged”

            Does that include ACTUAL uniformed women – firefighters, police, military, medical professionals, and so on – who manage to have careers without wearing dresses to work? Maybe they’re just bruised, and that’s why they want to look “macho”?

            So much stupid.

          • Brittany Kozura

            I’m sorry, but how can a man comment on what ‘majority of women and girls’ like?

          • Bill Hicks

            “”Little girls like to wear skirts” — irrelevant.”

            Uh…If your company is trying to sell costumes to little girls, I would think the MOST relevant factor would be what they like to wear.

          • Jeff Wells

            And 66% of the times you’ve taken written text, from which tone is notoriously difficult to determine, as a personal attack.

            I said “pay attention” because it was clear they did not pay attention to the message of the article. There is no reason to take that as an attack unless you are looking for an attack.

          • Key Demographic

            Yeah, your post was more “dickish” than “attack.”

          • Jeff Wells

            I prefer “blunt” but I can see “dickish”. I can dig it.

          • i_smell_pie

            No, you said “pay attention” to be a dick. Don’t be condescending to people if you want them to take you seriously.

          • ritabug30

            Before I posted today, i have never seen this poster on-line. What you originally responded too what the 1st time he ever responded to anything I posted. Thank you for backing me up, it stinks being ganged up on

          • Ixiiro

            Respectful discourse? You must be new to the internet.

          • MySayToday

            The mom, Ms. Kramer, specifically mentions the length of the skirt in her letter. So “dress length” is a problem. Also, she mentions low cut blouses, and says “toddler girls are not imagining and hoping they will grow up to be a “sexy cop,” so the sexualization of girls is definitely part of her concern. So, respectfully, you may be the one who needs to pay attention, as you seem to have only comprehended half of the intent of the letter.

          • Jeff Wells

            It was a side point to the main issue. If you’d paid attention, like I said, you’d have noticed that she said there was nothing wrong with a “sassy cop” or “perky cowgirl” or whatever. The problem is that they are the only options.

          • Phillip Jackson

            Jeff Wells, you make excellent points, but you come across in condescending manner…

          • Wayne Frazer

            That’s nice of you. I’d say he’s being a dick.

          • Arika Browne

            I think I paid attention, and the main issue is that we have a culture and societal norms that over sexualize females, and devalue females as educated professional. females as less valuable to occupations. These gender stereotypes have long been reinforced. Even reading these posts, I am always surprised to hear people go to such lengths to defend this. I agree with you, there are a lot of distractions from the main point, which is that society has different expectations of what females can, and want to contribute. The issue is not in the length of the skirt, how macho or feminine, color, style, super hero, the type of fabric it is made of, or whether or not Jeff is a dick. The issue is that female children are stereotyped sexually, significantly more than male children. Why? Not because it sells, but because we live in a society where females are valued less than males. We can argue the insignificant details, but the big picture issue is that we are a gender biased society. Whether it sells is not at question. Of course it sells; so do a lot of other products that are demeaning and gender biased. People make choices based on the options presented, and change comes from people raising awareness and talking about it. The suggestions to go find another retailer are not realistic, as this issue involves more than the halloween costume market. It is ok to sell short skirts, sexy bits and whatever else they want to sell to kids. It is not what they are selling, it is what they are not marketing to female children that is the real heart of the issue. If we are going to sell the image of sex to children, let’s just do it equally, and make sure we include at least a few dozen sex costumes for boys as well. Perhaps that would help some people see the “main issue.”

          • Andy Chia

            They cater to our society, what we demand, and most importantly what we choose to buy. If their scope wasn’t aimed at pleasing the majority they would be out of business. Bottom line is Party City is a business that exists to make a profit on their items. In the early 90’s they provided more unisex costumes for both girls and boys, based on the results of sales they didn’t make the cut so they were pulled and decided to go with what is popular since it sells more. You would think after years and years of staying in business they would be on top of selling the hottest and trendy costumes to appease the larger consumer market which they do. Once in a while they do come out with costumes online and in stores that are being tested if they would be feasible to sell in a larger scale. Again when you have a police outfit with no skirt or dress that is being sold to a girl that is as plain as a boy’s costume and it doesn’t unfortunately doesn’t sell well enough to be mass produced for a profit margin, they are going to pull it because its sits on the shelf collecting dust and usually ends up on the 90% off sale post Halloween…. There isn’t an equal playing field where sex costumes can be mutually exclusive for both girls and boys… Women will always be subjected unfortunately to that kind of treatment (sadly many women embrace this idea and are fine with it). This is what our society is like today. What you simply need to understand from a business perspective is why take risks in producing a product in mass quantities to appease a few when you can make millions pushing trendy products and popular costumes to what is now the norm of our society? Now lets take a simple example if you will. We have 500 Elsa Costumes, 500 Girl Police costumes, 500 Nurse Costumes, 500 Girl Doctor Costumes, and 500 Girl MMA inspired Athletic costumes. These regular costumes other than Elsa have pants regular designs for fitting and no irregular features that sexualize them in anyway. Can you guess out of all the outfits available which one will sell the most? Even if they didn’t sell out, statistically speaking from sales numbers from 2014, the Elsa costumes would outsell all the combined sales of all other costumes by a land slide easily. Now would it be in your best interest to NOT sell the Elsa costumes and continue to mass produce the other ones? These costumes exist because people buy them… These designs exist because people like them. If people disliked the designs and all agreed they over sexualize children then the designs wouldn’t sell right? Isn’t that a logic hypothesis? Well the truth is, they do sell. And they sell VERY WELL I’m sorry it didn’t go the way you wanted but that’s how business works! LET IT GO…. LET IT GO…..

          • The mom, like most Americans, does not fully understand that the act of putting a female in a dress is othering her and sexualizing her. Otherwise she’d have objected to the dress in the first place. As I said to the other commenter, I do not see police women going around in dresses. So it is nothing like realistic to start with.

          • Alex

            Why is a cop outfit an acceptable Halloween costume to begin with? What a lame ass costume.

          • ritabug30

            well said, thank you

          • shadine rexer

            i have a 4 year old little girl and honestly “low cut top” is a bit of a stretch on some of those costumes if the neckline was any higher it would be a choking hazard. now if say the sides were cut out and very little of the chest area was being covered then yes there would be a problem but other than that i see little issue with these costumes

          • Wendy McCarthy

            Thank you!

          • Andy Chia

            The mom is quite extreme in her demands and refuses to accept what our society likes to purchase, what kinds of costumes sell well during that holiday, what trends are in style that inspires people to make those purchases for their children. A huge portion of these ideas come from Disney/Pixar. Do you honestly believe that a company intentionally goes out of their way to exploit toddlers a children based on the costumes they provide? *Facepalm

          • What is extreme about it, Andy? She made very valid and valuable points. Uniformed career women do not look “sassy” and “sexy” in real life – they dress for the job. It’s also frightening how sexualized some of the little girls’ costumes are.

            Again – the mother did NOT say that cute costumes shouldn’t be an option. She said they shouldn’t be the ONLY option.

          • Brittany Kozura

            How is it “extreme” to request a realistic police costume for a little girl?

            ALSO, you are severely behind. Disney/Pixar NO LONGER GENDER their costumes. Do you know why? Because the market demanded it. All costumes are unisex, or available for both girls and boys. There are not ‘girls’ and ‘boys’ sections in their stores. So your post is a moot point. Party City is behind the market.

          • Andy Chia

            Its extreme because its not trendy and no one is going to buy it. I say simply take the gender label off of the police costume in general. People complain, then other people join in on the band wagon of hate to also bash and complain to prove a point and get their way out of using social media. Would creating this costume change the way they view the industry? Nope. Would making this costume change their perspective and attitude? Nope. So why does Party City have to cater to non-patrons’ complaints other than to settle an ego? Will this even the playing field of sexualized costumes vs non sexualized costumes? Nope, will this change how children view costumes compared to how adults perceive them? Nope. All in all catering to these demands wouldn’t change a thing. These extremists will find something else to nit pick and complain about until a new cycle begins again.

          • Brittany Kozura

            You are continuing to ignore every hard evidence in front of you. Disney/Pixar did a market research study, and chose to stop gendering their costumes. You’re telling me a company that large *got it wrong*?

            You are the only one with an agenda here, discussing ‘extreme feminists’ just because a woman wants a different costume for her daughter.

          • If me saying “I want a movie accurate Black Widow costume that’s an actual bodysuit and not a frilly skirt” makes me an extremist, then I will happily be an extremist.

            I can tell you’re an extremist too, I just don’t know what sort.

          • Andy Chia

            Skirts… aren’t the only option… You can fit your daughter into a boy’s costume that provide pants just the same. This sad debate is really just complaining about why girl costumes can’t have pants… Easy solution, we take gender labels off of every child costume and let the Extreme Feminist idiots continue to make an ass out of themselves. Any comment would just add fuel to their stupidity.

          • Oh, here we go… “Extreme Feminist idiots”, huh? How about I stereotype you as a typical conservative, controlling Asian man who is intimidated by strong women?

          • Andy Chia

            I’m not intimidated by strong women, I value their input and respect their power, I’m absolutely frightened by idiots like you there’s a difference. As much as I wish I was controlling I’m pretty laid back. But the agenda here is to push some bullshit in people’s faces. You won’t admit it but that’s the bottom line.

          • Why do I have the feeling you start off saying that you’re a Nice Guy…?

          • Brittany Kozura

            Yes please, Mr. Feminist-hating Male, please tell us women what we should or shouldn’t think, what we should or shouldn’t like, and how we should or shouldn’t act.

            Let me break it down for you: Boys costumes are made to fit boys. The proportions are not right, they are not comfortable, and it is not the same as unisex clothing. Period.

            You claim we should just buy our daughters the ‘boys clothes’? Fine. Prove to us that gendering doesn’t matter, that every person on here with genuine concerns are just ‘looking for attention’, and go pick up a pair of *women’s* slacks, and tell us how it is exactly the same as wearing yours.

          • Putting girls in skirts IS sexualizing them. Contrast sexual access to a skirt versus sexual access to pants on a female and tell me which one would be easier.

            I have yet to run across a FEMALE POLICE OFFICER who goes around in a damn DRESS.

          • Donald Jaramillo

            It’s not a Female Police Officer costume. It’s a Stripper Cop costume.

          • Melinda Frey Avni

            1) Skirts as attire do not constitute sartorial sexualization.
            2) Female police officers do wear skirts. Skirts are part of the ‘dress blues’ uniform for formal functions. Their ‘work clothes’ are slacks and long or shirt sleeved button down oxfords depending on time of year and organizational role.

          • Audrey Lively

            That is interesting but globally men don’t wear pants.

          • Andy Chia

            “Putting girls in skirts IS sexualizing them” Best quote from an Extreme Feminist. You win the award for bigot of the year too.

          • Bryar Shorewood

            I will say this in response to you, while I agree with the general direction you are going I do have to disagree with some part. Dresses or skirts as a whole are not evil, in fact in some countries men wear the equivalent of skirts, as I’m sure you know, however they are not told all they can/should wear is skirts which is the issue here. They aren’t marketed just skirts, or rather kilts, they are sold pants too, and that is the issue. Nobody should have to be a “boy” to wear pants. Go ahead and make all costumes unisex, don’t put a gender. Put a subject, fantasy and have pretty princess dresses and dragons and all such things. Then have careers, skirts versions if they’d like and realistic versions, but what is the point in putting a gender label at an age that gender has very little to with anything, even *most* of their anatomy. Let a young boy feel fabulous being a princess for a day a year and a young girl be a law enforcing cop without making either feel like they are acting out of their boundaries that their body dictates at birth. Maybe one will choose one sort of costume more frequently and that’s their choice, but they shouldn’t have to feel like they aren’t in their “role” for not wanting to wear their prescribed set of sassy outfits.

            But I must make a comment here, as a member of the military there are female uniforms that mandate a skirt. Whilst it is not required on most occasions, it is considered the “senior” uniform as females wore skirts before they were allowed trousers ( a good minute or so ago in history) and thus can be required, so it not unreasonable to provide a skirt for professional costume.

          • ritabug30

            thank you, I appreciate this,

          • lowfatpie

            no, it’s not about dress length at all. when was the last time you saw a woman police officer in a long skirt?

          • Annie Penrose-Angley

            I can tell you right now that it’s impossible to arrest anyone while wearing a skirt!!! You do not want to be worrying about flashing your underpants when wrestling a person in order to handcuff them.

        • calsfdude

          Then, learn how to think. Boys pants do not have a system that will automatically destroy the pants if they are worn by girls

      • The solution is to not make the girls costumes so clearly smaller versions of the “stripper” career costumes. The boys’ costume is a scaled-down version of a uniform worn by a police officer. The girls’ costume is a scaled-down version of a costume worn by a stripper pretending to be a police officer. See the difference?

        • Andy Chia

          So buying the boy’s version of the costume regardless of gender to accommodate the want of a police costume is too difficult to sate your ego? You’re saying that if Party City took away the skirt entirely and only sold police costumes with pants without gender but unisex it will solve this issue? No, You can remove all the labels off of every costume and have everything unisex and equal, and YOU’LL still have Extreme Feminists bashing away at an agenda to hate on something. I’m calling bullshit where I see it.

          • You keep missing the point. Sure, they *can* buy the boys costume. But why should they have to? Of course, being a male you’re probably not accustomed to having to go out of your way for things like this, but when you’re a female it gets kind of old. Maybe you’ll understand when you get a girlfriend.

          • Andy Chia

            “Of course, being a male you’re probably not accustomed to having to go out of your way for things like this” Extreme Feminist logic at its best. Being a father of 2, I accommodate for my two daughters as best as I can… I can’t help that they enjoy wearing dresses at their age of 5 and 8… I introduce them to Hero costumes and soldier outfits/ninja costumes because that’s what I generally wear with my buddies in parties. I let them try the different kinds of costumes that do have pants and they literally have 0 interest which is out of my control. They would rather wear whats popular and what their classmates are wearing as well. Took them trick or treating last year and every other girl was in a dress or skirt from frozen. I doubt they were forced to wear those due to options…. Pretty sure they WANTED to have that look intentionally. Of course not every girl thinks the same way or has the same tastes I realize this but from a no bias standpoint, do you really think having those options as costumes will be a profiting decision for the company? If your answer is yes, then I know that you are chuck full of shit.

          • AmyNix

            I tend to agree with you on this, Andy, and it’s what we have historically done with our kid (except when she wanted to be a twinkle princess type of deal on Halloween).

            However, the key reason I don’t like buying costumes manufactured for a boy’s body is that boy’s/men’s clothing is sewn differently. The button plackets are on the other side, and the pants button from the other side. It is surprisingly hard, even for an adult woman, to button up a man’s shirt. I actually laughed at myself for having so much difficulty fiddling with it.

            This isn’t a big deal, really, but it’s something people don’t think about until their 7 year-old gets frustrated because she has trouble with re-doing the pants after going potty because they’re made differently than the clothes she’s learned to dress herself in so recently.

          • Andy Chia

            You’re pretty solid on all points. I agree to a certain extent that some unique costumes should have different material to accommodate the body figure differences of boy/girls but most costumes for both boys and girls is a one size fits all for that age group. There are plenty of options on amazon and ebay that cater to specific needs of what everyone wants. I just find it unfair that people are bashing Party City because they are only selling what is trending and popular in the market. Is that so wrong?

          • Brittany Kozura

            Except the market has been against gendered costumes for years, and after 5 years of dealing with complaints, Disney has stopped gendering their costumes. Party City is way behind the market.

          • Sydney Brown Jones

            You are obviously not listening to many of the valid points made by others in these comments, including some men. Please address the claim that the labeling affects kid’s self-image and actions and, therefore, has negative consequences. You just keep saying the same thing over and over. “Just buy in the boy’s section.” That doesn’t address the bigger issue. I think you are ignoring the bigger issue, because you don’t know any facts related to it, and can’t rebut it. I call bullshit on you! And, if people did still bash on certain costumes even if there were no gender labels, that is a separate issue. That doesn’t mean we should continue to have biased labels. Seriously, what are you so worked up about? Would it hurt anything if there were more options for girls or no gender labels? Is it because you enjoy the sexualization of children? Is it because you are intimidated by females being portrayed as more that cute? Seriously, I’m truly curious why this is such a big deal to you? I’m guessing you don’t have a daughter. That is why it is such a big deal to some of us. Really, you are arguing something you have very little knowledge or understanding of. Ughh, I don’t even know why I keep arguing with you. You are on the wrong side of history, and you will have to face that soon.

          • idalily

            Do female officers in reality have to buy the men’s uniform? Uh, no. I’m not saying that Party City doesn’t have the right to sell what they want, or that the consumer shouldn’t just go elsewhere. But I’m not sure what all the resentment is for the woman who wrote what strikes me as a very reasonable letter.

        • i_smell_pie

          Then get the people who buy that crap to stop buying it.

        • @Athena Grayson,

          They see the difference and even label conveniently for you. Look for the word “sassy” in costume names. that’s their product phrase for underage sexy. They never use sexy or stripper or any other sexual buzz word for child costumes and that’s very closely controlled.

          The thing is that they own other brand stores with websites and retail stores that don’t sell “sassy” kids costumes. They make less money. So the disturbing sales analytics results are that scaled down versions of a costume worn by a stripper pretending to be a police officer sell really well. They know where the money is just like Calvin Klein knows it when they sexualize young girls in advertisements.

          To be fair, they have pulled costumes for being too “sassy” but usually only if it threatens their PR. Profit comes first so if you want them to pull a costume or offer an alternative you have to create the media and public opinion results that will cost them money if they don’t pull the costume. Since Party City is one of those “any media attention is good media attention”, then you have to work pretty hard not to accidentally give them free advertising when you write a blog about the overly sexy costumes. It seems like this topic came up every halloween season at about this time which was convenient for sales and reflected in the inbound links on the website. They can use analytics to sometimes find out how you go to their website and if you made a purchase. Surprise, most of the media and blogs critical of party city resulted in visits to the website and some of those visits converted to sales.

          p.s. don’t even get me started about their labeling of health risks or not labeling of Phthalates in products. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phthalate#United_States They follow the law on that, AFIK but the law isn’t very strict on that.

    • Rose D.

      But “She Hulk” is a character… And she is awesome. She is a brilliant attorney AND just as strong as Hulk. I mean, I take your point, but Iron Man would have been a better example…

    • calsfdude

      sexy nurses? Since when children wear adult costumes? Need help understand a picture? Like it or not, girls like to wear dresses, same as they like to wear pants. There is no law that forbid girls to wear boy’s pants.

      • Showing my age

        The nurse costumes toward the end are for adults. Look again. They were mentioned as a side note regarding the View controversy.

        • calsfdude

          Good for you. Now, learn how to read a post, especially the first one

          • Showing my age

            Ah, the op talked about the nurse costumes, and you were chiding her for misunderstanding the original article. I had so much trouble wading through your grammatical shortcuts, I couldn’t tell that you weren’t agreeing with her.

            You could have said: “the sexy nurse costumes were marketed to adults, so you can’t criticize Party City for selling sexy nurse costumes to kids.” But that wouldn’t fit your style. You were so invested in making the groundbreaking claim that girls like to wear pants, that you hurried through some verbs and subjects. But don’t worry, your point was clear to you.

            I should have just been abusive and told you to learn to read instead of trying to clear up what I thought was a misunderstanding on your part. I forgot the first rule of internet – you’re masked, so don’t be civil.

            Thanks for reminding me.

    • shadine rexer

      on that last bit its cuz theres litterally a character named she hulk with her own alter persona if ur gana use an example try somthing else ._.

    • Andy Chia

      Simple solution, buy the boy’s version and size your daughter correctly instead of whining about the package gender details. Its really NOT a huge deal… You just make it an extreme issue when you can just buy the “Boy’s” hulk costume… Do you think those stores didn’t try regular costumes for girls? They did in the 80’s-90’s and learned they don’t sell very well and aren’t profitable. Its safer to go with what’s trending and popular. Sorry the market doesn’t appease your demands.

      • Slytherpuff

        1. Why should girls have to shop in the boys’ section?

        2. It would be more effective if you were to listen to what women are saying, rather than declaring “it’s not a huge deal.”

        3. Consumers have been saying exactly what it is they want, but “the market” chooses to ignore–and outright delete–those voices.

        • Showing my age

          I liked both of your comments because you both make valid points. The common agreement you have is that the market should satisfy the demand. However, Andy is correct – incumbent retailers have product to sell based on their perception of market needs. If there really is a demand for the costumes the Mom wants, then a retailer will fill the supply. (In theory, that’s how the free market functions.) Sly, your point #3 is only half solid. A retailer has chosen to ignore a voice. The market has apparently decided that demand isn’t strong enough to justify supply.

          Mom should quit complaining to Party City and start partnering with a retailer that will satisfy her demand. If she’s right, other customers will follow her to the other retailer.

          • Jennifer Pirrone

            Very well said! It’s up to us as consumers to challenge and change the status quo!

          • JamieHaman

            What was true in the 80s & 90s, is not entirely true today either. Things change.
            As a woman shopper, as a mother of a daughter, I can tell you that attractive clothing is often made to enhance “sexy’ and is certainly not appropriate for day to day office wear, or other professions. I would estimate that about 85+% is made to flaunt “sexy’ and the other 10% is for your grandma. It can relly take some time to find age and profession appropriate clothing for women, or girls, without spending both arms and a leg.
            Mom did need to complain to Party City, and not to worry, she will find some other retailer to work with, because obviously, it isn’t going to be Party City.

          • Showing my age

            As the father of a daughter, I have found the retailers who supply the clothes I’m happy for my kid to wear. And, I’m notoriously thrifty, so I have never spent an arm and a leg for her clothes. We hit discount stores, and even second-hand stores, when we’re doing daddy/daughter shopping. And, there’s an outlet mall nearby that has big brand shops with clothes 40-50% cheaper than the regular mall. I don’t complain when the clothes at Target are not to my liking – I shop somewhere else.

            Complaints are valid, but action is much better. We need more problem-solvers and fewer complainers. When the writer starts solving the problem with action, I hope she posts an update.

            The bigger problem here is that Party City just dismissed her. That was a dumb move. They could have politely said that they will revisit their research, but we gave up on polite around here ages ago.

          • KaiYoDei

            they possibly just thought she was a troll. we all know how that goes now. “someone challanged by beliefs” “someone hurt by feelings” “they said something I did not like”

            all ends up to trolling.

            where as a real troll trolling Party City’s fb page would ask dumb things like “where is Slave Leia Costume for baby?” or “do you have things for a Magic Mike-50 Shades of Gray party for a 12 year old? our son loves that crap, why can’t he like Starwarz like a normal child?”

            just other off the wall, bad taste questions

          • How is writing a letter addressed to the company NOT action? The woman, as a consumer, expressed her desire to the retailer. Attempting to shut down that dialog between consumer and retailer, as you suggested in your first paragraph, is getting in the way of the free market. Anyone who’s ever worked a retail chain knows complaints get results. Anyone who claims differently is hoping you aren’t targeting *their* retail chain.

          • Showing my age

            I am so tired of people misinterpreting what I say then saying I suggested something I didn’t mean. I SAY what I mean, so if I didn’t say the dialog between consumer and retailer should be shut down, I didn’t MEAN the dialog between consumer and retailer should be shut down. That’s a dumb suggestion.

            What I SAID is that I don’t complain, I shop somewhere else. I did not say that other people should not complain. They can complain all they want. But, if they really want to create change, they need to use their resources to create the world they dream of. Outsourcing that is a call to inaction.

            Some complaints get results while most complaints get ignored. This is true when companies and consumers collide. Claiming that ‘anyone’ knows that complaints get results if overstating reality. Speaking in absolutes is a good way to advertise that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

            If writing a letter to the company is action, so is complaining at your dinner table. I am talking about taking action in a business sense – make the market if you are so sure it’s there. Get financial backing, create costumes, go find a vacant storefront, and start selling. In short, get out from behind your keyboard and DO something.

            That is how the free market grows. Supply meets demand and they make a baby. If you want an example, learn from Sarah Blakely. Thankfully, she isn’t just a letter writer.

          • Denise Painter

            I’m sorry, as someone who has worked in customer service for many years, you are wrong. A company that truly cares about their consumers pays very close attention to complaints. They put reporting protocols in place, train their staff appropriately, and when enough people complain about a specific problem, they put together an action plan to address what is upsetting customers. They do this because companies like Kmart did NOT do this for many years, and you see where they are today.

            Party City has made a huge mistake. Had their response been “Thank you for your input. We strive to be a better company every day and we will look at this and see where we can improve our costume stocking to better reflect today’s choices in career costumes.” AND THEN LEFT THE LETTER AND RESPONSES UP ON FACEBOOK, truthfully, this would most likely have blown over and you never would have heard about it. If they were smarter, they would have sent an email out to their store managers telling them to pull one or two of the boy’s career costumes in each genre from that section and place them in the girls area, maybe with a sign stating that more career costumes could be found in the boys area. These actions wouldn’t have costed the company a penny, but would have at least given lip service to their supposed belief in women in career positions, as evidenced by the pulling of their advertising from some talk show. Next year, if they were even smarter, they would adjust packaging to show both a boy AND a girl wearing the same costume.

            Instead, Lin’s letter has gone viral, people who would have never seen it are now discussing it, and Party City appears to be guilty of the one sin you never want to be guilty of in business: Hypocrisy. As they say in Washington, the crime is never as bad as the cover up, and by pulling the letter and comments from their Facebook page, PC is engaged in a cover up. The impact to their business may not moneywise be so bad, but in a portion of the buying public’s minds, PC now has a little bit of a stain around the edges. There’s money out there that they will never get. And THAT is why complaining to the company is not the same as complaining at the dinner table.

          • Showing my age

            You’re response has two parts – and I wholeheartedly agree with one of them: Party City blew the response. That’s not a question at all. They didn’t have to agree with the Mom, but starting a fight is never good business.

            However, I don’t think it will affect their sales much, given their market dominance. Most of their loyal customers are already satisfied with the product selection. And, even the the response was improper, the response was not directed at 99.999% of their customers. As consumers, we generally don’t care about the plight of some other customer we don’t know. If the products were dangerous and might affect MY kid, then I’d be more likely to adjust my purchasing behavior. There’s a reason companies usually don’t suffer because of bad behavior – customers don’t care as much as we would like them to.

            The other part of your response, however, is only accurate because it is different than Athena’s. Earlier she said ‘complaints get results.’ Now you are saying that complaints get results AFTER they reach critical mass. That’s a completely different proposition, and is consistent with what I said when I said some complaints get response, and most get ignored. Yes, once enough people complain about one specific item many companies will act to change the item. Some companies, however, still won’t. You’ve added a further filter to describe the actions of companies who ‘truly care about their consumers.’

            So, the original, absolute statement has been watered down to ‘companies who care about their consumers will act on a complaint once enough people complain about a specific issue.’ That, finally, is a true statement.

            But, that still leaves a big universe of non-critical complaints (like this one, frankly) AND companies who don’t care. So much for speaking in absolutes, huh?

            Guess what, I’ve worked in customer service roles since the 80s. You might not be familiar with a book called ‘The customer comes second,’ but every service professional should read it. Service is a profit center, when it’s done right. And doing it right often means saying NO to complaints you don’t really care about.

          • misterprecedent

            If you were experienced and successful in retail sales, you would know that a controversy based on a complaint from a lazy, weak customer (whose daughter can’t read and probably couldn’t care less what the section or packaging suggests) is a great way to get your company’s name trending and to drive customers into your store right before its biggest holiday sales period. This has nothing whatsoever to do with customer service, but with increasing buzz, traffic and sales.

            Intelligent people don’t expect or need every possible type of person pictured on a product to determine if it interests them personally. Good parents don’t teach their children that they are limited by packaging or that they can only shop in one section.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            Wrong. Too many years of the “customer is always right” has killed many businesses or hurt their bottom line.

            Amazon, QVC and others are now banning problem customers

          • Eve

            There are two real benefits to complaining publicly: 1) once the first person has said what other people have been thinking disgruntled to themselves, it moves others to act as well, and 2) companies may misinterpret the signals the market is giving them. If they see girl police officer costumes are not selling, the marketing department might interpret it to mean either that girls don’t want to dress up as police officers or that the costume isn’t girly *enough* instead of girls being intimidated by the fact that the only realistic police officer costume is labelled as being BOY.

          • Ines

            I complain AND I shop elsewhere. Doesn’t mean that’s enough. If we were exclusively concerned about the market, perhaps it would be, but there’s more to it than that, at least there is for me. Also, every change that has ever happened in this world has happened because someone thought, “This is not good. This could be better.” Complaints are valuable. And if you are uncomfortable with a group of disgruntled people calling something to your attention that’s been bothering them for a long time – and it finally gets attention – and you’re indignation stems from their complaining about it…maybe you should listen to what they’re complaining about.

          • Showing my age

            I agree with what they’re complaining about. I’m not uncomfortable at all. That’s a silly suggestion.

            I’m just saying that the people who make things happen are the people who DO something instead of just complaining.

          • Ines

            And my point is that complaining IS doing something. So is shopping elsewhere.

          • Jim Trent

            Action is taking your business somewhere else and convincing others to do it. Obviously the majority does not feel the same way as her. Companies are not in the habit of selling items people don’t want. Or not selling items people want. I am willing to bet that the comments on her post were getting ugly and the whole post was removed. Then she most likely sent them a message being a snot so she was blocked.

          • If you are running a business and people are leaving and you do not know why, the first thing you do is *find out why.* Customers who leave and tell you why they’re leaving are worth twice as much as the customer who leaves without giving the business a clue as to why. You have no idea if “the majority” (of what–Party City customers? People who shop for costumes? People with kids? Demographics are important) feel the same way as her, and neither would the company. But it’s clear that enough people had strong feelings one way or the other because this went viral. And you can bet that someone from Party City is monitoring and paying attention. It’s good business.

          • @Athena Grayson,

            I worked for Party city headquarters where they make those decisions and edit comments and I can assure you they are very very attentive to sales and profits first and exclusively. Their goal is purely to make profit and the publicity is good for business. But we used to have running debates in the copywriting pool and merchandisers reviews about “sassy” girls costumes. I could tell all, but it’s probably boring. suffice it to say that no, they don’t want to hear what a customer says when they don’t make a purchase because they already know all about it. Product clicks and purchase revenue are all they want to count. That’s a core philosophy of their business and it seems to work for them.

            The other thing about party city is they have a very merchandiser specific turf setup internally with Boys costumes and girls costumes being handled separately my the merchandisers. There’s also merchandisers for holiday stuff and merchandisers for sports stuff etc. Anyway, because they’ve got everything siloed internally by merchandiser, it’s very difficult internally to have something like a cross sell or unisex costumes. There’s no “unisex costume” merchandiser, only “boy costume” merchandisers and “girl costume” merchandisers. I seem to remember an attempt at having some costumes cross over and be unisex, but it resulted in internal power struggles between merchandisers and caused more organizational conflict than it produced profits that quarter. So end of that experiment, profit for the next quarterly report comes first.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            i DON’T LIKE YOUR BLUE HAIR.

            Change it now, wahhhh

          • “Thank you for contacting us regarding our blue hair. Your information does not appear in our customer records, but we value your business. Thank you for your feedback and have a pleasant day.”

          • @Athena Grayson,

            Nope, that’s not how that store works. They don’t want a free market they want a competitive advantage and that means lots of media attention and preferably only positive media attention. Also, they aren’t interested in mining customer complaints for business intel. Customer service there is siloed and the the customer service staff couldn’t get an internal message through to the merchandising department or purchasing department. Product merchandisers who pick which products to sell and manage inventory levels are the top of the food chain and don’t want or listen to customer service advice on product choices for their store.

            I’d call it bad management not to use customer service to discover usability problems and customer feedback, but PC has a system that seems to be working to make loads of money and they’re not changing that. Actually I did call it bad management and tried to get the customer service input implemented as an information resource for the merchandisers. That was a career mistake for me.

            The sad fact is that there’s lots of business operations that are anti-competitive and anti-free market. Not just at party city, but the ones at party city are the ones I tried to do something about much to my regret. p.s. try finding their customer service phone number on their website some day for a fun game. It’s hidden deliberately because for a lot of their low price items they’d rather you didn’t find a convenient way to get a return or leave a complaint. The margins are low on their products and just talking on the phone to process a return or complaint costs more money than a they make off about 50 sales of the same product. So they’re willing to leave customers unsatisfied or even upset as a general practice if it make more money for the quarterly returns.

            They don’t seem to track yearly metrics so the idea that a customer might become loyal or refuse to shop there again is kind of some far away concern that doesn’t impact anyones performance rating or career future. they discarded the customer loyalty concern as a part of their business model when they did their acquisitions and took over several competing costume stores. They’re like those soft drink companies that seem like they’re competitors, but they actually own half the soft drinks you think are competing with pepsi. Same with party city. if you leave their website or store to shop somewhere else, you’re probably just shopping at another store owned by the same company. If party city loses a sale due to poor customer service, then it probably just means another store brand they own like costumes USA or similar will get your next purchase.

          • misterprecedent

            People who are too lazy or weak to walk 3 steps into another section to find a costume that suits them or their kid better will LOOK for something to whine about. Shame on her for teaching her daughter that she is limited by advertising. SHE is the problem, not Party City.

          • idalily

            Oh, please. A person has every right to make a complaint to a company about their product line. She isn’t “looking for something to whine about.” She’s making a very valid point to a company. And the real problem here is that some, including Park City, want to silence her or accuse her of being a problem for calling out the problem. Shooting the messenger had never been a smart way to do business.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            It’s a private business, they can do as they please

          • idalily

            Agreed. As does she, and without being called “whiny” for doing it. Or “lazy” or “weak”.

          • misterprecedent

            Good. That leaves more room for people who aren’t too stupid and weak to choose a costume based upon what they like instead of what the package says or what shelf it’s on. No wonder some kids are so messed up, if they’re being taught by whiny parents that they’re limited by advertising.

          • JamieHaman

            lol, Yes it does leave room for people who aen’t too stupid, etc. While I can sympathise with the mom, because sassy etc. cop clothing for girls is BS, the REAL problem is the majority of people are so stupid that we put directions on shampoo. Stupid people tend to raise stupid kids. Bet I’m not the only one who has noticed either.

          • Brittany Kozura

            Actually, Disney recently stopped gendering their costumes because of market demand the last 5 years. Party City is very much behind the market.

          • Showing my age

            No, Party City is very much in control of their target market, and Disney is responding to its target market. Those prospects are not exclusive.

        • Soulless

          I NEVER had a problem shopping in the boy’s section, because I wasn’t an overly sensitive femmy brat. The only one who ever had a problem was my old, stuck up granny. There is nothing at all wrong with a boy label. I’ll wear whatever I want no matter what. And every kid I’ve ever known was the exact same way. It’s mostly older females who are peeing their panties over this.

          They only ignore people like you. They know exactly what sells, which is why they’re so popular. There’s not enough of you all to make a difference. All they have to do is pay attention to the numbers. They start listening when their products stop selling so well. The femmy costumes you hate so much are actually pretty cute, and little girls usually like that stuff. If they don’t, they ask for what they do like. Little kids don’t give a cap about labels. If they want to be a princess, dinosaur, stormtrooper, warrior or whatever else, they’ll ask for it. They’ll tell you if they want to be a realistic or cute nurse. Just show them the pictures and let them choose on their own, without you people having a bítchfest all over the place. Unless you tell your girl she can’t wear it cause it’s just for boys, there shouldn’t be a problem. I haven’t worn a girly costume since I was too young to make my own decisions (<6 y/o). Not once have I ever had a problem having clothing and toys labeled for boys. I know that I'm not normal, and that way more people prefer those labels, so why would I go out of my way to rain on their parade when I'm not bothered in the least by it; my friends are the same way. You just want attention and to ACT like you're helping.

          • Brittany Kozura

            Disney would disagree with you, as they stopped gendering clothes due to market demand.

          • misterprecedent

            Disney did it for the publicity. You bought it – literally.

          • Sydney Brown Jones

            Brittany Kozura is right. You are simply wrong. Just watch. The market is changing and will continue changing because the demands are changing. No need to argue…time will tell which of us is correct.

          • misterprecedent

            You are falling for the oldest marketing scheme in the book. There is no bad publicity. Controversy increases sales.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            You don’t tell someone they’re wrong. If you disagree, then do so, but don’t ever tell someone their opinion is wrong

        • Lisa

          What if a boy wants to be a disney princess, then he shouldn’t have to shop in the girl section? I would rather go into the store and find what i’m looking for and get out. I’m not the least bit offended if my girls pick a costume that is in the boys section because i get that it is sorted over there because she is in a very small percentage of girls that actually wants that costume. As for the costume being made into a dress, they do that sell costumes to girls but this is total fail as its just ugly.

          • Sydney Brown Jones

            I actually really like your point. However, I think they should market princesses to boys as well as girls, just like they should market Captain America to girls as well as boys. However, really good point!

          • misterprecedent

            THANK YOU for not letting your kids grow up thinking that the whole world should revolve around them personally, and for teaching them that they aren’t limited by what the packaging says! Bravo!

        • misterprecedent

          Why are you teaching girls that the packaging on the outside is more important than what’s on the inside? Party City isn’t the one creating weak, entitled, whining, helpless brats. Let the kid pick the costume she likes, regardless of what shelf it’s on, or what words are on the package, and put it in the cart. Or do some actual work and make one for her. It’s not a huge deal.

        • Jim Trent

          You are so full of crap.

          1) It could be said the same thing about boys who want to wear a princess costume (according to the loony left those kids are everywhere). Why should they have to go to the girls section. Here is an idea go shop at Target. They removed all the boy/girl labels. So you can tell yourself you are shopping in whatever aisle you want. But pro tip for you, boys still head to boys clothes and girls still head to girl clothes even if not labeled as boy/girl. Most do that is.
          2) Guess what? They do listen to what the majority of women are saying. That’s why the items sell. If the majority of women wanted something else then they don’t buy what is being sold and the company would change it’s mind. Do you really think a company will keep making things that don’t sell well? And then don’t make things that would sell well? You are a true moron if you think companies operate like that.
          3) Let me fix your statement “A few consumers have been saying exactly what it is they want.” No company is going to skip out on making money by ignoring what a majority of consumers want. If you think they do then you are stupid.

          • idalily

            Failing to offer a princess costume to boys is NOT the same as failing to offer police officer costumes to girls. There are female police officers in reality. Last time I checked, no country had a male princess in their royal family. The two are not at all the same.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            You don’t know that. Many transgenders in the world

          • idalily

            Possibly, but I doubt any of them belong to a royal family.

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            calm down fruitcake

        • MacktheKnife

          Costumes aren’t in the boys’ section of any store, all costumes are in the same section. And he’s right, the stores go with what the market dictates. Little girls generally like pink frilly girly costumes (not all but most do) it is the adults that have issues with this, NOT the kids.

        • TYPE O NEGATIVE

          MISOGYNY LOL111

      • Josef P Melech

        Actually it is a big deal. Girls who shop the girls section are told that they must be sexy, sassy, cute or provocative at a very young age. This leads to the hypersexualization of society. Its in everything from everyday clothing to halloween costumes. The sad thing is, this type of provocative clothing is rapidly becoming the only type of clothing available for girls and young women to buy and then we punish them for wearing it. Not everyone wants to see their three year old sashaying down main street dressed like a tramp.

        Businesses tell us what to buy and it has been this way since Reagan moved us to a supply side economy. We as a nation need to fight back and start a demand side economy instead of a supply side economy.

        • misterprecedent

          Good parents teach their children that they can shop in other sections or make up their own costume instead of being limited to what signs and packaging say, or whining that their photo and a personal invitation isn’t on every package.

        • idalily

          You are seriously trying to blame Reagan for this? I agreed with your post until you had to put that gem in there. And one can’t “start an economy.” To think one can do such a thing is ludicrous.

      • Lisa

        They sort stuff by who buys it most. That’s why they have girls and boys buttons on just about every website. 90% girls buy elsa stuff that’s where they put it. 90% boys buy darth vader its under boys. My girls love some things that fall under the boys. Doesn’t bother me in slighest.

        • Andy Chia

          Thank you! Someone with a non bias perspective finally spoke up and understands where I’m coming from who’s not on the Extreme Feminist wagon.

          • Bryar Shorewood

            What you just said sounds something like this, “Finally someone that is unbiased, meaning that they agree with me!” That is not really what unbiased means. Not to be lumped in with the “extreme feminist wagon”, because being a feminist means that my opinion is invalid I guess, but that isn’t what unbiased means. It actually means no prejudice for OR against. So having an opinion in this situation means having a bias, one way or another. Just a heads up a response that would be more befitting a situation where one can respect both sides of a discussion would be “thank you, finally someone who agree with my thoughts, I appreciate having someone with a similar thought process.” And then maybe leave out the part that clumps everyone who disagrees with you as an extremist or fanatic.

          • Brittany Kozura

            And how are you non-bias?

          • Andy Chia

            I believe children can wear any costumes they like regardless of gender labels on the costumes… A boy can wear a dress or skirt costume because its halloween and not a statement. A girl can wear a hulk or captain america costume just the same. I feel if we take off genders on the costumes completely and just mark them “FOR CHILDREN” it still wouldn’t fix this issue in general. People will still complain about sexualizing children regardless if those changes came into play. I’m not bias what so ever because I support the imagination of what children want to wear and not what we adults assume is sexual because we can relate it to strippers and negative associations that children haven’t a clue about. How can you take something innocent and cute, then label it as degrading because your personal opinion and perspective is the final say in everything? Yeah… That’s totally fair.

          • Faith Luber

            Biased. Non-biased. Not “bias.”

          • Sydney Brown Jones

            It is not extreme feminism. Do some research. There is a great documentary out there called Consuming Kids: The Commercialization of Childhood. There is a section on the hyper-sexualization of kids and how it has affected society such as teen pregnancy rates, etc. It is backed by A LOT of research and data. Data doesn’t lie. Opinions mean nothing without evidence. You say the labeling doesn’t affect kid’s or society. Back it up! And, this isn’t just about affecting girl’s negatively; the marketing issues are also affecting boys. So, it is not just about feminism.

          • misterprecedent

            If you see sex in a child’s costume, perhaps the problem is you.

      • Doc Strange

        It really is a huge issue when children are sexualised like this. I think you underestimate the power of early imagery and how it causes children to define themselves. It’s plain wrong.

      • Tonya

        I agree Andy

      • Sydney Brown Jones

        Things have changed significantly since the 80’s and 90’s, and I bet if they tried again they would find it a good marketing choice. Look how much good PR Target got by de-genderizing (I made up that word, but it works) their toy department. I don’t necessarily think they should get rid of the cutesy costumes, but I think they should also have the more realistic options. It is not just about being able to get realistic costumes (because, as you stated, you can get the boy’s versions), it is about sending a message to girls that the realistic costumes are just for boys. There is a lot of research that proves marketing truly affects kids’ perceptions of their roles in society, and I can’t imagine anyone believing we want girls to get the perception that their roles are only to be cute or sassy. Cute and sassy is fine, but there should be more to a female’s identity than that.

        • misterprecedent

          Take your daughter into the boys’ section and let her choose the costume SHE wants to wear. Party City shouldn’t have to do the parenting for you.

          • anomaly

            That doesn’t fix the issue about the message this sends to young kids

        • Andy Chia

          Its not the Halloween’s store’s responsibility to send a clear message its your job as a parent to do that. A Halloween store exists to make a profit from consumers during that 1 Month period time frame as compared to target and Disney who have to make sales figures year round. Those realistic options don’t work for Party city during Halloween its just not feasible as a business solution to spend extra money to appease a small percentage of complainers who aren’t patrons to begin with. If our society as a whole demanded more options for costumes they would quickly accommodate that demand by marketing more options to appease the mass… This isn’t the case, the majority of parents/consumers don’t go out of their way to buy “REALISTIC” options, its Halloween, they buy their children whats fun and trendy. I know its odd logic to try to sell items no one wants to buy but yet they should be available right? Party City caters to the Majority not the few, you know the few angry extremists who had no intention of even purchasing anything to begin with but instead trifle on about gender equality in costumes… Party City was right to block her and remove that post. It was condescending and generalizing them to be an evil Corporation. Perfect example… I’m shopping online at any given store, I can’t find what I personally want so I end up shopping elsewhere. Easy solution right? This woman can’t finds what she wants so she writes a letter complaining about her experience and how awful Party City is and trifles about gender equality over children’s costumes/accuses the store for intentionally exploiting toddlers… Yeah because having that on your feed is good PR right? R O FL

          • anomaly

            There is such a thing as Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR). It is on them to assess and take responsibility for how the company effects social wellbeing. When they don’t they face the fate of abercrombie and a reduction in value. It is in the interest of that company to self-regulate so they can meet the standard of CSR

      • Shannon Patterson

        Honestly, at that age, it is perfectly fine, but when you get older, you can’t buy boy’s options. Even as young as eight you have to switch to the girls’ because you have different body shapes genetically and the boys’ just don’t fit.

    • RT Kraken

      She Hulk is an amazing female role model. Try another example.

    • Dominic Colascione

      “Waaaaaaaa”
      Quit playing the “Who is the bigger victim game”
      He-Man
      Hulk
      SuperMan
      Spider-Man
      BatMan

      All in skin tight outfits (and in the case of He-Man and Hulk, barely clothed at all) and I don’t see you complaining.

      • Brittany Kozura

        The difference is all of those characters are like that in the comic books aka canon. Police officers do not wear skirts.

        • misterprecedent

          A Halloween costume is supposed to be FUN. If a girl wants to wear a skirt as a cop, let her! It doesn’t have to be an accurate uniform.

          • Ines

            The problem is the lack of choice. It’s hard having FUN when the only option is a sexualized version of what you thought you wanted to be for Halloween.

          • MacktheKnife

            Some reason why she can’t wear the boys’ version?

          • anomaly

            She shouldn’t have to. If those costumes are meant for either boys or girls then they should just be in a gender neutral cop costume section instead of “boys version.” Defeats the purpose once you start calling it the boys version

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            But then she can’t bitch

          • Robinanna neibauer

            I do, but I shouldn’t have to!

          • TYPE O NEGATIVE

            I never bought store bought costumes, I made my own.

            Today’s mothers would rather bitch than do some work

          • Ines

            My kids make their own costumes too. That doesn’t address the marketing of sexualization to girls and “real jobs” to boys. That’s what we are tryingto address here. I have always loved making my costumes too and I love that part of this holiday, but we aren’t talking about that. If a girl opens up a Halloween costume catalogue or goes on line, what message will she get? That’s what we’re talking about.

          • Quinn Harbin

            Hey Grandma. We got store bought costumes that were printed garbage bags and creepy plastic masks that made us sweat.

          • Marcus Ford

            you don’t know where to buy pants?
            if its just for halloween, get off your high horse and go to the goodwill and buy some pants.

          • Quinn Harbin

            In other words, don’t shop at Party City if you have a daughter? Seems fair enough for a customer to give feedback to a store about their products, no?

          • Robinanna neibauer

            You’re right, it’s so bad, I chose to wear the BOY’S costume instead!

          • Quinn Harbin

            and if she wants to wear a more realistic cop outfit she will learn that’s for boys.

        • TYPE O NEGATIVE

          It’s Halloween, there aren’t vampires or superheros either.

        • Jen

          Actually in the 70s they did. They wore skirts, heels & carried their handcuffs in their purses.

      • Arawra

        Also, those characters being barely clothed is hardly sexualizing them. While it may be appealing to the male audience, its not because of sex. Its because its typically want men want, much as men want sexualized women.

        • TYPE O NEGATIVE

          WELL, SINCE EVERYONE IS GAY THESE DAYS, I guess no one will sexualize the girls outfits

          Problem solved

      • Actually, there is a female Spider-Man who wears a bodysuit similar to Peter’s. I’d love to see that as a costume but all I ever see is skirts for girls. (Even as a kid, I mostly stuck to the boy’s section for Halloween costumes. Better choices.)

    • misterprecedent

      Did someone cut off your arms and legs so you are incapable of shopping in the ‘boys’ section for a girl (or in the ‘girls’ section for a boy)? What the hell difference does it make what the packaging says? Stop looking for sex in children’s costumes and you won’t find it. Halloween is supposed to be fun. Stop teaching kids that they are limited to what others say or think, or that whining is smart, strong or successful. It’s weak. It says, “WAHHHHH! I’m a helpless female who can’t wear the costume with pants unless someone gives me permission and changes the wording on the package. WAHHHH!”

    • Jim Trent

      So then why don’t you buy your kid the Hulk costume? Sounds like the problem is with you and not the companies. You can buy whatever you want for a costume.

    • Kalei Kema

      Because that’s what sells, or the makers think sells, we gotta turn the market around and just say no, we ain’t going to buy this shit, and not for our kids or our Grand kids, a Grampa

  • Naomi

    I understand the opposition to sexualizing the girls costumes but the author points out that female police officers wear substantially the same uniform as male officers so why ask Party City to “offer girls the realistic option of the same costume”? I ask this because I have a 5 year old daughter and she wants to be a police officer for Halloween. I bought her the realistic version (i.e., the “boys” version). What is a more realistic girl version of the police officer?

    • ritabug30

      exactly, you choose the costume you want. If the girl version is not your thing, get the boy one

    • “I bought her the realistic version (i.e., the “boys” version)”

      Why should the realistic version be labeled “boys”? Do men have a lock on reality? Obviously not. It should just say “police officer costume.”

      • Naomi

        I only meant that I bought her the realistic version, the one that Party City labeled as the boys version.

  • Anno

    Simmer down, simmer down! What Lin is trying to say is make the costumes unisex, (as they already can be, just advertise them in that matter) let kids be kids?

  • Elaine Stapleton

    Let’s make it stick to their Facebook page. I just posted a link to this article to their Facebook page.

  • ritabug30

    While I do appreciate where this person is coming from, a lot of girls want to wear cutesy not realistic. If I offered my daughter a choice between the girl cop costume or the boy one, you can bet she would pick the girl one. A lot of girls, not all of them, like to dress girly. It is in their nature. And if a girl likes to wear the boys police costume, sure, who cares? And I hate those slutty womens costumes just as much as the next person, but no one is forcing you to wear it. I have never chosen to wear a costume like that, but I have seen plenty of women(usually 20’s and under) don such clothing. Lets all stop with the preaching.

    • Audrey Lively

      And I bet your daughter would be more open to more realistic costume if a girl was shown wearing it too, so it looked more normal to her.

  • Guest

    Kudos to the writer for calling out Party City on this practice. But at the same time, I don’t see anyone demanding that Party City market the girls’ costumes to boys. I wonder why society is so quick (as it should be) to tell girls that they can do anything they want, including stereotypically “boy” things, but society is way less enthusiastic about encouraging boys to do the same when it comes to stereotypically “girl” things. In today’s society, most boys would be bullied, not only by other kids, but by adults, for wanting to wear “girl” clothes. Would any parents of boys commenting on here be ok with their son wanting one of the costumes on Party City’s girl page? If not, you should ask yourself why.

    • Slytherpuff

      ::Raising hand::

      My son was a “pink ghost with rainbows” last year. He wore his sparkly pink shoes.

      • Arika Browne

        Awesome.

  • carlaboo11

    I could not agree more!

  • TheGeneral

    So while i been over here pushing for victims (all of them unlike feminists) for rape, DV ,mentoring girls and boys in STEM related fields and pushing the envelope for change… ya’ll over here bitching because the gender label on a pair of clothing is not to your liking …. as if you can’t wear something because it says boy or girl…..

    yall joking over here right ?

    Anyway if you want some good opportunities in STEM for k-12 look into NASA/MIT’s program First robotics. Very great fundamentals in technology , its for everyone but if you want more girls into these fileds this is a good place to generate some real interest.

  • Discourse

    This is written from the perspective that Party City is actually manufacturing the costumes that they carry. They are not. They are buying them from a variety of sources, with a few stand-out brands. They are limited to the costumes available in the marketplace just like all of the rest of us.

    If you want to create change in the marketplace, money talks. Don’t buy the costumes you deem offensive. If enough people have this same opinion, they will stop carrying what customers won’t buy and begin to carry what customers will buy.

  • fakegramita

    is that seriously a “sexy police officer” costume for a Toddler………WHAT??

  • FLMom

    They should have a cheerleader costume with the boys choices. Seriously, if your child prefers a different style, then go with it. And, while there is definitely a shortage of career options on the girls side, think of this… Real Estate Agents – Men wear suits, women wear dresses, skirts or pant suits… They have a product to sell, and I am sure there research shows them what people are buying. If you don’t want it, don’t buy. Halloween costumes are for fun, not for making a statement of how a cowgirl should be dressed for working on a ranch.

    • Leila

      Do you really not understand why reinforcing these ideas in impressionable children creates a repeating cycle in adults? They’ve never offered realistic career costumes for girls so there isn’t any “research”. That is literally all they can buy if they want a costume so that’s what they buy.

  • Alex

    I was unaware that Halloween was a time for children to dress up as their intended future occupation. My daughter is 2 1/2 and she wants to dress up like something scary for Halloween, you know, like kids are supposed to dress. While I do not entirely disagree with the authors stance here, I find it to be irrelevant and wrong in context to the holiday. I do agree that children should not be sold costumes that are sexy in any way, because you know, they are kids…and that is not a message we should be teaching them nor giving pedo’s any more motivation.

  • Scott.Brewski

    Ok i know I will be attacked for this … Parents aren’t parents anymore, most parents today live through there kids. letting there kids do things they were not aloud to do… These costumes that party city is selling, are this JUST COSTUMES.. look at how parents are dressing there kids today in the cloths they buy.. Being a Grandparent i have seen the cycle as we were/are guilty of this as well as 95% of you

  • Marisa Riseling

    Here are two things many do not understand the first being who is making you purchase these clothes? It is not like you HAVE to buy it or there is nothing else. You could also buy the boy one because its not like it will fit differently on a girl than boy. The second is we as consumers drive the market. If parents or grown ass adult women buy these crappy costumes they will continue to make them. Does it suck that they are trying to sexualize females at a young age? Hell yes! However they wouldn’t be getting away with it if the damn parents didn’t buy the clothes in the first place. Is it wrong? Yes, but they will only respond if you hit them in their wallets. So parents stop buying these outfits for your daughters. To Grown ass women: If you buy it don’t bitch about people only looking at you as a sex object.

  • kristian

    So what is so wrong with buying your little girl a boys costume… problem solved, your daughter is not sexualized in any form and she has a ton more costumes to choose from.

  • calsfdude

    Get a life.
    Halloween is not a holiday where children can wear career costumes. There is no law that prevent girls from wearing boys clothes, hence, boys outfits. Cry me a river when I can’t even ind cloths for my boys, when stores offer 3 times more clothes for girls than for boys.

  • Judge Harbolt

    Feminist reality vs Reality. They sell cute costumes for girls because girls want to be cute. I don’t believe there is enough feminists that are willing to buy “Sally Strong CEO” Party City costumes or even “Gender neutral street cop” costumes. Thusly men are not buying alot of “sexy man this or that” which is why couples costumes are always politically incorrect “sexy Sally” paired with “silly Sam”. The feminist dream that more female CEO costumes would equal more female CEO’s is as idiotic as whining letters will end the selling of cute costumes, complaining will end women’s desires to buy these costumes or any feminist effort will create more “Police cop Pam’s” or “CEO Sally’s.”

  • Dubhradh

    Here’s a friend’s take on the subject when buying costumes for her daughter. https://tsutsujigirl.wordpress.com/2013/11/01/no-you-cant-be-batgirl/

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  • Andy Chia

    Simple solution…. Don’t buy from the company and make your own costumes like most people. Instead of making a huge fuss over what they sell, try to realistically understand what costumes would actually sell in their inventory that would cater to kids? I’ve bought countless costumes for kids… and let me say girls can wear almost anything boys would wear… Like A girl can wear a ninja costume, doctor, zombie, Soldier, MMA fighter. It doesn’t have to be specifically labeled GIRL on the costume. If you would really go overboard on simply having gender labeling then you’re an idiot. There are plenty of costumes to choose from, just because it has a picture of a boy on it doesn’t mean your daughter can’t wear it. Lighten up and stop being up tight.

  • TRakei

    You went easy on the police-girl costume, not mentioning that she’s shown smilingly dangling the handcuffs.

  • Natalie Feuerstein

    My daughter is wearing the “boy” police officer costume this year. I posted this on my Facebook wall a couple weeks ago:

    My daughter is going to be a police officer for Halloween. It was her choice and she said she might want to be a real police officer when she grows up. Her “friends” at school laughed when she told them. Then they told her that only boys dress up as police officers.

    PSA parents: Broaden your kids experiences and help them stop gender stereotyping. Plus, it’s just plain rude to laugh at your friends.

    #princessesareoverdone #powerfulgirls #mightygirls #hatersgonnahate #beyourself #girlsarecopstoo #skirtsnotnecessary #girlsaresoldierstoo #momwasaparatrooper

    • Rose Heels

      Bravo for raising such a smart daughter with so much confidence! Sounds like she gets it from her mom!

  • Donna Johnson

    She really should focus her attention on other things and not complaining about what Halloween costume her child (of 3) may or may not want . . .if her kid wants to wear a costume that was advertised for a boy, then let her and quit whining about everything -most likely she is a liberal

  • Rose Heels

    Luck is not need to change society but people with spines are. What a weak and miserable response. “Changing things is too hard so just don’t try…”

  • RockyLanding

    Meh…
    Lighten up, Kramer.

  • Kathy B

    Edited the letter and reposted. I encourage you to do the same.

  • Jimothy Smithington

    Cool it, Grandma. Childrens’ Halloween costumes are about them, not you.

    Regarding realism: who cares? It’s Halloween! Should we start measuring unicorn horns, or get rid of Disney princesses because real princesses don’t bare their midriffs? It’s fantasy! Most kids that age of either gender have no clue what being a cop is really like and they don’t care: they see a real life super hero and want to emulate it for fun. If the fun includes flouncy skirts, what of it?

    Regarding sexualization: you serious? Any sicko who looks at those pictures and thinks “I’d hit it” was thinking it anyway. I’m trying to think of any girl or woman who would genuinely turn down one of these costumes because the skirt is too short and all I can come up with is grandma. It’s not even that short! And the cop has tights under it!

    These costumes exist because they sell and they sell because they don’t require having guns pointed at you or changing bed pans or herding animals to wear. They are more FUN than wearing slacks or scrubs.

  • carmen webster buxton

    The “cop” costume for girls looks more like a stripper costume.

  • Annie Penrose-Angley

    I can tell you that as a young girl I was heartbroken to be told I
    could not play Aussie Rules football as it was “not for girls”. I think
    throughout my whole life I have thoroughly enjoyed doing things that
    were “not for girls”. From science to Rugby Union (bless Rugby for not
    being discriminatory), from policing to kickboxing – if I had not had my
    teachers telling me “Girls can do anything”, I may not have done – well
    – anything!

    I know the commercialised ideal of Halloween is that
    it is a time for women to dress as sexily as possible. But a 3 year
    old costume??? WTF people? Even a 12 year old costume??? If I had a
    daughter I would rather she wore the costume on the right. With big
    boots. And attitude!

  • Bill Hicks

    I’m less concerned about the existence of the costumes themselves than I am about the people who find them to be sexy on little girls. First of all, gross. Second of all, most of them don’t appear to be any more revealing than Easter dresses or dance recital costumes.

    And of course, the biggest factor: If you don’t like them, don’t buy them! If people didn’t buy them, nobody would be making them. Companies like this don’t have a moral agenda, good or bad. Their only agenda is to sell things people will buy, and to not sell sell things people won’t buy.

  • Arika Browne

    And slavery, human trafficking, child porn, drugs, etc…. And we should just give up and go back to our cheesy fries and CNN?

  • Ali Roberts

    So, let us all copy and paste her letter on the Party City FB page and show them that she doesn’t stand alone.

  • JE

    They sell what people are going to buy not what fits the feminist image. Get the hell over it.

  • Trish

    Why make any of this gender related at all there might be a boy out there that wants to be a sexy nurse or fireman. So, why not just put the costumes under “toddler” or “teens” and call it good. This gender separation stuff is outdated and needs to move on. LOL. Genderless costumes is the appropriate way to go now.

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  • L.E.

    I just wanted to say one thing then I’ll get out of here. Because I appreciate your argument and what it stands for. But, I worked for Party City for a year and Halloween was our biggest time of the year. And while, yes, we SELL the costumes (and I agree, many of them are innately sexualized), we do not MANUFACTURE the costumes. It’s not our company’s beliefs, it’s the ‘beliefs’ of those we buy the costumes from. You’ll find those brands of costumes in costume stores all over the nation, not just in Party City. I agree with what you’re saying, but take it to the source, not the messenger. Party City is a good company and they don’t deserve this ridicule.

    • Rose Heels

      Right, they are just making lots of profit off of the sexualized costumes, so their hands are clean?

  • SomeYankInRio

    When s the last time anyone saw a nurse wearing a cap? Not in my lifetime – (and I haven’t been young for a while)

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  • Get Fuzzy

    I saw that Joy Behar used the phrase “doctor’s stethoscope” which drew the ire of many, but who is the second panelist who drew such rage that Party City felt such self-righteous indignation as to withdraw its fine and noble advertising?

  • Stephiney Leleux

    I’m not sayingnits right but if you don’t like the Girl costume buy the boys one for your daughter. Anythung can be modified.. Say. My daughter wanted to be Darth vader this I’d buy a boys costume. If my son wanted to be a fairy i wouldn’t put him in a dress I’d get Wings and all but make due with what I was provided. I agree girls costumes should have more options career wise. 100% but a Girl can wear the boys costumes. No one said just bc Shea a Girl you aren’t allowed to buy from the boys section. If she wants to be a Dr. A lawyer. A vet. A cop. And you prefer her wear the boys costume bc it’s not sassy sexy get that. I’m in no way sayingnits Right I’m simply saying you have that option.

    • Lisa

      My daughters costumes are under the boys button on amazon. Simple reason is I bet very few girls compared to boys buy it. Daughters is princess so its under girl. Doesn’t mean your son can’t have one too. 🙂

  • Lisa

    My main problem with the girl cop outfit is it looks stupid and is ugly. I had a cowgirl costume like that and I chose it over one with pants when I was kid. Her girl could still get the other version if she wanted. I wonder what this mom would do if she had a boy who wanted the dress version.

  • Susan Ford Keller

    Can Halloween just be fun again? I propose we make all costumes silly and goofy and cartoonish so that no one is wearing anything that would be mistaken for an actual work uniform. Because it’s so confusing when I see a 4 year old mailman or a 6 year old doctor……..

  • WrennS

    For the most part it looks like their costumes are pointing boys in the direction of being the cop, fireman, race car driver… and point the girls at being the stripper pretending to be the cop, fireman, race car driver.

  • Michelle Faustermann

    What disturbs me is the pictures of the young girls in their costumes looks more like an ad for bachelor party entertainment that Halloween costumes.

  • lordcrom

    instead of complaining about start your own costume company how is that for an idea

    • Rose Heels

      So every time you’re not satisfied with a company’s products or services, you just start your own version of that company? Right, you do what the rest of us do, you tell them they got your order wrong, or there is glitch in your mobile device, and they replace it. It’s called customer feedback and successful companies actually want to hear it. It’s how they improve and retain customers.

  • blurose411

    My girls would like “scary” costumes. They hate the girl “scary” costumes because they are not in any way scary. They are instead this same mantra of “cute, sassy, sexy”. And to those of you saying, “Just buy from the boy’s section.” There is a reason why cloths are made and sold according to sex – Male bodies and female bodies are not shaped the same. And yes, even for my 10 year old girl has hips that make sizing boys’ cloths to fit properly very difficult. Designers and marketers need to get a clue!

  • ThePatrioteer

    The same woman though will be more than willing to watch Honey Boo-Boo.

    Here’s an idea, buy a boys costume and shut the hell up.

  • Laura Jean Hedges

    WOW….SMH…make ur own costumes its soo easy..be creative…its the best!!!! <3
    Happy Halloween! ;p

  • Soccerdaddy77

    I am a single dad with 3 daughters I have custody of and another that calls me dad. I’ve been a coach for several of my girls sports teams and am super involved in their school functions so I’m constantly around literally hundreds of kids. I hate the fact that it’s so easy for people to push their own agendas and try to drag businesses names through the mud because their marketing or service isn’t set up for them personally. Kids just want to be kids and Halloween is one of many opportunities to be anything they want, to use their imagination. MOST girls want to be something girly and MOST boys want to be a superhero or, as she put it, an occupation. If a girl feels strongly enough about being an occupation,(cop, firefighter, dr, etc) I’ve never seen them embarrassed or “offended” by where it was at in the store, they were just happy they had the costume they wanted. It’s the adults that push these views onto their children AND THEN they feel embarrassed. If they don’t have what you want go to another store that does. It’s your right to not buy from them. They only put out costumes that were sellers the year before and what’s popular at that time. As far as “this is what they think of nurses” comment, they’re a business and ONLY PUT OUT WHAT SELLS. Every adult woman that I’ve ever known, respectable women, have always used the descriptive word “sexy” in front of their occupational costume if that’s what they want to be. The only women that I’ve seen be an actual cop, were cops. The ones that were nurses were real nurses that wore their scrubs, and so on. Teach your children that they have choices and can be whatever they want and be themselves. Not that they should be catered to and then offended when not. I do commend Lin for using her voice directly to the company with her concerns and they did respond respectfully, but they did nothing wrong in taking it off of their website days later after she had a chance to see it.

  • Andrea J Welter

    Wow it’s Halloween. I think she went overboard. My daughter would never wear the police costume or the cowgirl costume as she wasn’t interested in having an occupation costume. She was too busy wanting to be a princess or a scary vampire, both of which I was able to buy in the “girl’s section” with long skirts. If you don’t like costume selections, why don’t you make your own! That way it would be better quality and probably cheaper. If you want a girl costume that looks like a boys, shop in the boys section, not make the girls section equivalent to the boys section. As far as the sexiness in the women’s costumes, is this anything new? Hasn’t this section been like this for the last thirty years?

  • Courtney Urbanik

    Well Im all for voicing an opinion and agree that childrens clothing has gotten a lot more racy in general but we are still in charge and parents here aren’t we?
    Kids are being marketed everything and anything nowadays, does it mean we as parents have to purchase it? NO.
    Do you let you daughter shop in the “Boys Toy Department” or vise versa? Of course. Would you let your daughter buy a shirt from the boys department because its got her favorite character on it? I would. And Id find it hard to believe that any parent hasnt gone to a other department because they were dissatisfied with what they found and/or the other one had a different colour/style/design without writing the head office of the store because you couldnt find what you wanted in the department you feel it should have been in?
    I think half the problem is how WE think our children are looked at and or.how we feel our children should be. Do you look at every woman that wears a skirt and think unpure thoughts? Or a child that wears a dress? Probably not. If we instill proper values, self image, self esteem and confidence in our childre then it shouldnt matter if your child leaves the house in a paperbag.
    Many of you said it your self, Halloween is make believe and is supposed to be fun. Some girls like being in dresses and skirts, so what? Everything in life doesnt have to be realistic. They have costumes that are Ninja turtles and Ketchup bottles, does that mean that some day your child will grow up and want to be a ketchup bottle or a turtle that was mutated and raised by a rat? Of course not. Its meant to be fun. Let them be kids. Let them dress up as their favorite super hero without the unrealistic expectations of them being something great. Or let them put a sheet over their head like the good ol days and be a ghost without being told that ….what they have to choose a career path from a damn Halloween Costume?
    No, you’re right. A female police officer normally wouldn’t be wearing a skirt, nor would a female firefighter but that doesnt mean for 1 night they can’t pretend. And if they don’t like it or you are happy with it, then look at other options. Make your own Policewoman outift, put a pair of tights under the skirt. And i bet if they offered “kids costumes” in a general format and there were both options there (skirt or pants) without bring labelled, then there may be a possibility that this discussion may not have happened.
    Kids are marketed a lot of crap nowadays but it doesn’t mean that we have to follow the guidelines set forth by a marketing bigwig.
    I want my child to feel empowered with anything she does and not to be starred at as a sex object just because shes wearing a damn skirt or dress. Come on.
    I don’t condone a lot of the clothing out there made for kids but for adults in general but i still have a choice. I also am not trying to dismiss this parents concern or right to voice her opinion. All I’m saying is to open your eyes and minds a little and allow our children to rediscover the land of make believe that has been replaced by electronics and unrealistic expectations.

  • Jenn McCarthy

    This goes to the law of supply and demand. If more parents were like Lin Kramer, and declined to purchase the trashy costumes, then the costumes wouldn’t be on the shelves. Obviously, there is a market for these trashy costumes, because parents must be buying them for their children.

  • Cindy Gross

    The sales could go up if they sorted their costumes by type and left gender out of it. Categories for Halloween might be scary, real people, history…. Of course, the real culprit here is the companies making the costumes. Stores can’t stock what isn’t made.

  • i_smell_pie

    A friend of mine posted this article on Facebook with a bunch of clapping hands emojis, implying she’s applauding this woman for what she did. I find that funny because every year, she and her friends get the “sexy” versions of costumes for Halloween.

    • Brittany Kozura

      Yeah, but it would be nice for young girls to have the option to NOT be sexy, hmm?

      • i_smell_pie

        They do have that option. Look and you shall find, hmm?

  • Morsigh

    My kids have had issues with costumes in general. They are horrible material, with exposed elastic and unfinished seams. My daughter has always leaned toward career-type costumes. When they’re small, skip the costumes and walk over to the learning toys section. Role play/Dress-up outfits are slightly more expensive, but gender-neutral and SO much better. She’s been a doctor, a policewoman, and our son was a firefighter last year.

    • Constance Carter

      I like your post. But “police officer,” not “police woman,” please.

  • guest

    I have just reposted this letter on their FB page and will continue to do so until Party City responds with a real reply and not a computer generated one. And will repost everytime Party City deletes it…

  • Kellcut

    It’s not just the little girl costumes, it is also adult and teenaged women costumes.

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  • Robert Conrad

    As an independent Party Store owner i will tell you that trying to find gender neutral costumes is tough. Fortunately I am starting to see more costumes such as doctor scrubs with a boy & a girl on the front to show that it is gender neutral. As Party City also manufactures its own generic costumes under its Costumes USA label, the pressure you are putting on them by having this discussion will hopefully make them & the rest of the industry take notice and market more costumes accordingly. But as someone who has been in the industry for over 12 years & also has a 4 year old daughter I can tell you from my experience little girls mostly want to be the latest princess for Halloween. Someone on this thread posted that Disney has gone away from sexualizing its costumes. That may be true, but I can tell you that nothing and I mean nothing is produced with the Disney license on it without their explicit approval. But once again as a father i am glad that this letter has gotten notice and hopefully there will be more options that are marketed to little girls in the future whether they want to be a princess, doctor, or policeman for Halloween.

  • Constance Carter

    I think I might copy the original letter and repost it on Party City’s FB page. I invite others to join me in doing so. Ms. Kramer made a very important point, and she made it well. No need to reinvent this particular wheel.

    For those who say quit complaining and shop in the boys’ section, the labels do damage. Shopping in the boys’ section is a transgression of traditional gender expectations and can lead to little girls (who eventually become women) devaluing themselves as girls or being confused about gender and inhibited in their own gender expression. They may also be ridiculed by others (kids–and their parents–can be cruel), which has its own attendant problems. This goes for little boys too, who are much less likely to be allowed to chose a costume from the girls’ section than girls are from the boys’.

    Get rid of gendered labels. Organize them by genre, maybe, or something else if they must be divided, but let kids enjoy the “come as you aren’t” celebration without judgement or enforced gender stereotypes.

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  • Dawn Lane

    Buy your daughter the boy costume if it’s that big of a deal. Just because its in a bag that says “boys costume” doesn’t mean that a girl couldn’t wear it too. Most 3 yr olds could careless if their costume is polictically correct. You are making a mountain out of a mole hill and I think you should just shop somewhere else if you’re that unsatisfied with the way they market costumes.

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  • Chris Hauser

    I dunno, that “Boys Plush Ride In Train” costume is pretty phallic…

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  • I just bought my daughter a Scary Phantom costume from the boys’ section yesterday and while I was there looking for the thing, I saw the “sassy” girl police costume – and all the others and could’ve gagged. I am really glad my daughter doesn’t want to be a police officer for Halloween but if she did I would have bought the boys version. That said, Seriously, Party City? It is really gross that the girls costumes are all so vixeny. ridiculous. It sends the wrong message to girls to have their options so limited : for Halloween you can be a vixeny girl or a boy. My daughter really doesn’t want to be a boy.

  • misterprecedent

    If your kid wants to look like a realistic cop instead of a cute girly one, pick up the ‘boy’ costume, put it in your cart, buy it, and help her put it on – or get off your butt and make one yourself. Nobody’s stopping her or you. Party City is a BUSINESS whose goal is (and has every right to be) to display costumes in the most efficient way to ensure the most sales. By dwelling on marketing and packaging, YOU are the one teaching her that she is limited by what it says, and that she isn’t valued unless she’s represented in all advertising for every product she could possibly be interested in. Instead of sucking all of the fun out of Halloween, and teaching her to be a brat who assumes she’s entitled to have everyone cater to her (or your) personal preferences, teach her that what’s on the inside is more important than what’s on the outside. If YOU think SEX when YOU see girly or cute costumes, YOU have no business being around children.

  • kadacozarh

    I went to the facebook page and found this response from Party City “Thank you for reaching out to us and sharing your feedback. Party City took this incident seriously and after investigation recently learned an employee wrongly deleted and blocked Lin Kramer’s open letter without our knowledge. The employee’s actions were against our policies and procedures and the employee is no longer with the organization. We regret these actions and sincerely apologize. Party City values customer feedback and appreciates our customers taking the time to share their opinion with us. Nothing we carry is meant to be offensive and Party City is always evaluating how to make shopping in our stores and online a fun, welcoming experience. Please know your feedback and this incident has been shared with the costume manufacturers and leadership teams at Party City.”

  • Dana Sheese Craig

    Some kdis want the “cute” costumes, some don’t. Just do the Target thing, make it the kids department and let the kid pick whatever they want. If your toddler wants to be a cop, buy the correct size of the tough cop boy uniform.

  • Jim Trent

    Oh Lord, stop blaming the companies for what you females do. Here is a tip for you, if you didn’t buy those sexy costumes then they wouldn’t make them. Supply and demand. A company will not continue to make something that no one is buying and a company won’t sell something that only a few buy. You can make your own costumes pretty easy and not too expensive. We made a robot for our kid with boxes, dryer tubing, duct tape and some spray paint and stickers. We poked small holes in places and stuck a small strand of lights through for the “buttons”. It also served for lighting at night. We have done that a few years when our kids didn’t like the choices they saw.

    Most women like to look sexy/pretty and most men like to look at sexy/pretty. This is a fact that you can check by looking how well makeup/lingerie/sexy clothing sells. If that were to stop tomorrow then the world economy would collapse. There is huge money being made selling all these items to women.

    Now for the little girl costume, the loony left has been pushing for not having any genders so dress your girls up in whatever they want. If they pick a cop costume with a dress then what are you teaching your kid that makes her want that? You can buy just about all the cop pieces separate (or any other costume type) so buy what you want and put those together instead of buying a one stop shopping costume. If you truly wanted to have “realistic” (no such thing in kids costumes) then you would take the extra few minutes to piece together the items buying them separate.

    My little girl loves dresses and pink and looking pretty and playing with her ponies and dolls. My wife hates pink and playing with dolls so I am the one who plays dolls, ponies (sometimes battle ponies) 🙂 and things like that. You and your kid decide what you want them to wear and you can make it happen with what is on the market. Don’t force others to give up on the costumes they want just because you don’t want to take the extra time to put together the pieces for what you want.

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  • Kinnster

    I hope the store considers re-arranging their catalog. It should be pretty simple, just get rid of “boy costumes” and “girl costumes” titles and show little girls in some of the boy’s realistic costumes and while your at it, show a boy or two in a couple of the little girl costumes because, unless you’ve seen under a rock in the last 8 to 10 years, there ARE some little guys who WANT to dress as a princess or whatever, so let them. This way the customer or child is not having to buy under a particular gender title but rather anyone can pick anything from the costume line as a whole. Unrealistic? I don’t think so.

  • Steve rice

    Can’t the little girls dress in the boy’s costumes? What’s the big deal?

  • John Sharp

    I think of all the mothers that have REAL struggles in life with there kids,poverty,cancer,homeless,then there’s you.

  • Lional Jodoin

    Just put your female child in the male ‘Career’ costume that they want to wear.

  • MacktheKnife

    First of all it is a Halloween COSTUME. Second, why don’t you just buy the boys version for your daughter if you don’t like the girls’ options? It isn’t about being PC, it is that some people need to make everything difficult.

  • The silent majority

    Party city is a retailer. They are not in charge of being the moral compass for society. They offer for sale what manufacturers produce based on what has sold in the past. The retailers also base line decisions based on what has sold in the past. If you dont like what party city offers for sale, go see if you can find what you are looking for elsewhere. I doubt you can bc what party city offers is what is produced. The great thing about capitalism, let your money talk. Take your business elsewhere and when sales on different types of items sell more, that is what you will see more of. Oh yea, and quit whining.

  • ROAM PRODUCTIONS

    I’ve been saying this for years. I called out BabiesRus for sexualizing infant bathing suits in my 2012 sketch “Baby Bulimia” by ROAM Pictures LLC. For. By. About. Women. https://youtu.be/amBiZm6Mn-o

  • paige

    Buy her a boys costume if you don’t like the girls. If people would just stop making such a big deal out of little things people wouldn’t be so hyper-sensitive. I used to dance and play softball. I would ask for the boys toy at McDonald’s if that was the one I liked better. I DID NOT CARE that it was for boys. Halloween is supposed to be fun.

  • Jennifer R.

    When did Halloween become such a “sexy adult” thing? When I was a kid, if adults dressed up, it was in characters that may have been scary but not sexy. Things like bride of frankenstein, not sexy nurses.

  • IamBullyproofMusic

    We are a village.

  • Lavender

    The important issue isn’t whether the way Party City markets their products makes business sense or not. Who cares? Should we make all of our decisions based on what we think generates the greatest profit or do we ask ourselves whether it’s good for us as a society and more importantly good for females, who do not enjoy the same privileges that males do (THIS BEING ONE VERY CLEAR EXAMPLE OF THAT)?

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  • Marcus Ford

    its not the costumes,
    its the poses.
    they have the girls posing in the same way that full grown women pose on the “sexy” costumes.
    its just bad marketing…..

  • Robinanna neibauer

    It’s so bad, that I chose to wear the BOY’S police officer costume-I’m dressing up as a cruel prison guard for halloween!

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  • Riley Gay

    More thoughts on sexy halloween costumes here:

    http://theodysseyonline.com/kansas-state/sexy-halloween-costumes/196588

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  • deborah caster

    Is there a reason why girl’s can’t wear the boy costumes? It seems that many of them are generic. Maybe Party City should just lump them all together on the website. Costumes are supposed to be fun. Does everything have to be so PC?

  • Jen

    Okay, first off, using 3 adult SEXY nurse costumes as an example is stupid. They’re not listed as just a Nurse uniform, they’re labeled as a SEXY nurse uniform. Now for the little girls, while the fingerless gloves are a bit much, the skirts are KNEE length AND they’re wearing tights. And YES women police officers did at one time wear skirts, heels and even carried their handcuffs in their purses. But yes, there should be an option for pants as well. To be fair though, most little girls (not all mind you), want to wear cute dresses/skirts WHILE still dressing up as a nurse or cop or cowgirl or firefighter. Are they realistic? No. But they’re HALLOWEEN costumes people…FANTASY. If you don’t like the costumes, make your own for them.

  • Bethanne

    You are angry at the wrong people. Party City does not have their own costume line. You need to send this letter to Rubies Costumes, Forum Novelties, California Costumes, and Disguise Costumes. These are the big companies that supply not only Party City, but every party store and even Walmart or Target. I’ve worked in many costume stores and have even been to their big Halloween and Party Expo where they are represented. All of these companies have shameful girl costumes, infract usually they are lazy and it’s the same pattern and colors as the sexy adult version.

  • JenniferandRoger Baker

    OK so what about buying a boys costume for your daughter? If she wanted to be a cop or fireman, & you did not like her in a short skirt get her pants. Besides there are so many better resources than party city. Check out Mighty Girl they are so very empowering for young girls. http://www.amightygirl.com/toys/imaginative-play/costumes-dress-up?cat=528

  • Cyn

    Isn’t anyone concerned about the superficial message that is being sent to our very young and impressionable girls. I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t strive to be skinnier, more in shape, more beautiful, more appealing to the opposite sex because society puts these unrealistic expectations on women to look a certain way. Now kids not even old enough to wipe their own a**es are being exposed to this expectation as well. It’s ridiculous an appalling. Please people, think about what the labels and costumes are doing to your child’s future sense of self.

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