NJ College Tells Women To Practice Anti-Rape Facial Expressions To Avoid Sexual Assault. We Kid You Not.

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What does your anti-rape face look like? Last week Ramapo College in NJ told students that they should take preventative measures to avoid sexual assault by practicing “anti-rape” facial expressions.

In a presentation to freshmen students by the school’s coordinator of substance abuse and sexual assault prevention, students were advised on how to dress, how much to drink or not to drink, how to use body language to lessen the chances of assault, and that women should “practice how they articulate their face in a social setting by practicing in a mirror.” Um, WHAT?!

Rightfully, students were pissed off by the victim blaming theme that ran through the presentation and have chosen to use humor to battle the ignorance. Taking to Twitter, students are posting their very best “anti-rape” faces, using the hashtag #MyAntiRapeFace.

The school has responded and posted a mea culpa on their Facebook page, but it seems to us that they just don’t get it.

Here are a few of the Tweets…. you can check out more here or post your own using the hashtag #MyAntiRapeFace.

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  • James Mcwilliams

    Holy crap, how stpuid can you possibly get before you just fall over?
    Get pepper spray, get a taser, get a knife or get a gun.
    At the very least learn how to fight. Ifyou arent willing to ft ake steps in your own defense who is supposed to?

    • Catherine Kane

      or teach guys that rape is not ok

      • InconvenientTruthsYouHate

        I’m getting sick of this predictably, idiotically, robotically-delivered line…
        The fact is that **VERY FEW** people in the western world grow up without being taught that lesson, though you (very plural) act as if it’s the other way around.
        99.999% of people learn this lesson, and they aren’t the ones you need to worry about. The remainder? No stupid facial expression or whistle or self-urination is going to stop them from trying. So grow up and learn to take responsibility for your own self defense against ALL forms of violence, including simple muggings, hate crimes, and of course rape.

        • Cpt_Justice

          And your post contains the problem. Rape is *almost NEVER* a *fitting* sort of violence. These days, it’s almost never the “stranger jumping out at you from the bushes”. And yet we hear *all the time* of rape that takes place because the victim was drugged, or overly drunk, or in some way incapacitated, & the rapist decides that this is a great opportunity to “have sex”! And then the victim blaming begins: “Why were you drunk?” Like that’s the end-all & be-all of the problem.

          THIS is why rapists decide that it’s OK to rape: because they are NOT taught that rape is bad – they are only taught that just grabbing a woman & beating her into submission or holding a weapon to her is bad. And so, being rapists, they send their formative years figuring out ways around those scant taboos into scaring, strong-arming or drugging (alcohol is a drug) women into providing them with sex.

          When we say “teach men not to rape” what we really mean is “teach children from a very young age to KEEP THEIR HANDS TO THEMSELVES, respect other people’s bodily integrity, respect other people’s individual rights.” Somewhere along the way,we lost all that.

          • Christopher Walker

            You are spouting pure idiocy. Using your logic, we could teach everyone from a young age that crime is bad, and then there would be no need for cops and prisons. I don’t know what world you are living in, but it is not the planet Earth.
            “Teach guys not to rape”… What kind of lunacy is that? “Teach people not to steal”? “Teach people not to lie”? “Teach people not to kill”? Yeah, these sound like good plans to stop all the bad things that happen on this planet… Get a grip.

          • InconvenientTruthsYouHate

            “Fitting”? Who besides you used THAT word? You certainly weren’t quoting me, or even paraphrasing me.

            You claim my comment “contains the problem”, but then you make no reference to anything specific that I said, and instead focus on repeating the tired saw about the very point that I had already refuted:

            You CHARGE that most children (especially the evil male ones) aren’t generally taught right from wrong, to respect others, and to “keep their hands to themselves”. But the fact it that most children ARE taught exactly that.

            You IGNORE the simple fact of life that “teaching” someone something doesn’t guarantee that all will learn it, even or care about it.

            It is a TINY MINORITY (those miscreants who don’t care what the rules are) who deserve to be derided and treated like crap here, NOT “most” or “all” males, as this feminist campaign of misandry uniformly does.

            And you continue to ignore the simple fact that it is against that minority, those who don’t “follow the rules” of civil society, that EVERYONE else (men included) need to take responsibility for learning to defend themselves.

            Stop blaming all males for the activities of a few, and stop couching the issue as if it is a gender one! Women also commit rape, of men, children and other women. And they commit other crimes, too. CRIMINAL behavior of all sorts is an individual problem, and not inherently based in gender, color, or any other shallow demographic.

            Stop saying “we don’t teach anymore”. Speak for yourself! And blame actual criminals, not whole demographics!

          • James Mcwilliams

            Who isnt taught that rape is bad? Are you seriously beliving that young men are taught that sexual assault is okay?
            Heres the rest of the pieces of the puzzle, there is no accountability placed on anyone anymore and everyone is a victim. Sexualy aggressive men and women are constantly paraded around as “free spirits” until they get into situations they cant handle and then claim to be a victim, alcohol and drugs are no excuse for male behavior but are acceptable for female behavior when getting into dangerous situations but its still a mans fault because”he shouldve known better” but if a woman plys a man with drinks or drugs and then assaults or robs them then it “well its his fault for being so drunk.” Are you seeing a pattern yet?

      • James Mcwilliams

        So women are never convicted of sexual assault? What rock have you been living under?
        I would rather see my mother, sister, girlfriend all allowed to have means of self defense they see fit. Not some stupid poop face. Better to be tried by 12 than carried by 6, unless you think its okay to be raped but not allowed to defend yourself using deadly force if necessary?

      • Vinny Ambrose

        Guys already know rape is wrong, it’s the animals you have to worry about. Animals only know one method of superiority and that’s survival of the strong. Be strong, learn self defense skills and methods. If your afraid of defending yourself by ALL means necessary then you have already lost the battle and have VICTIM written across forehead.

      • darkpoetinc

        Teach both ends of the problem..

        1. Teach girls not to put them-self into situations where they are powerless. IE getting drunk to the point they black out.

        2. Most sexual assault is MAN on MAN

      • Fred762

        Do U “teach” them b4 or after u pee or vomit or defecate or put on yer anti-rape face? Don’t be fooled by the libtard media elites…get a gun and learn how to use it.

    • Cpt_Justice

      This is *great* – for the small percentage of rapes that are violent physical attacks by strangers. The vast majority of rapes are sneaky/coercive sudden attacks by people the victim already knows & trusts.

      • InconvenientTruthsYouHate

        “for the small percentage” – How so? How is a gun or pepper spray or knife or martial arts training **ONLY** good for stopping people you DON’T know?

        And let’s just say your attempt at changing the narrative here (to be about “known attackers”) is taken seriously… Are we all to then believe that what you and this campaign are suggesting somehow takes care of that majority of rapes in which the victim knows their attacker? “A facial expression will stop people you know from raping you” – is that what you’re telling us?

        Get real. The fact is that if someone catches you totally unaware, whether you know them or not, there’s a good chance their attack will succeed. So don’t be unaware. And do be armed and willing to use it. Stupid faces and p!ssing one’s self will not protect you from these people, known or unknown.

        And before you bring it up again: 99.999% of everyone (more than that actually) are not criminals and are not violent — because they took to heart the lessons of “right from wrong” taught to virtually every child. For the tiny fraction left over, the violent criminals, no amount of “teaching” is going to change them. All you can do is acknowledge (like an adult), that such hateful, violent people exist, and then (like and adult) take responsibility for resisting and overcoming them if they ever try to victimize you.

        • ConsentCulture

          Well, I’d say I agree with you in that people should defend themselves, but the thing is; EVERY issue has two sides. Most people do know that straight rape, ie. no is a no, is a terrible thing, but the line gets greyer when things like: Alcohol, authority over the other person, coercion, or simply silence are involved. Sure, there’s that 1% of people who are just actually crazy, and there’s nothing we can do about the crimes they commit, but they’re not the only problem. First, silence is not consent. We need to teach consent. Girls need to START saying no if they’re coerced and boys need to stop coercion. In addition, sometimes consent isn’t possible, ie. in situations where you’re drunk/passed out. How are you supposed to defend yourself then? I mean, if you went and passed out in an opium den, sure, good things are probably not in store for you, but if you pass out at a normal party with a group of normally respectable college kids around you, no-one should be sexually assaulted. In any case, there is no one solution to this problem, pepper spray wouldn’t have to be used if rape never happened, you’d be curing a symptom not the problem.

          • InconvenientTruthsYouHate

            Yes, yes, and “most people know” also that date rape, rape of unconscious people, and other kinds of non-consentual sex are wrong. They perfectly understand “consent” and the fact that they have none. They haven’t been “not taught it” as you posit.

            But their understanding of all that right and wrong doesn’t mean they have perfect judgement, either. Maybe they are irresponsibly drunk (their fault and responsibility but that’s not going to appease a rape victim). Or maybe they have a cop for a dad, or a scholarship; something which makes them think they can get away with anything.

            The exact WHY here is unimportant. The important point is that for “whatever reason”, there will ALWAYS be people who act against their understanding of right and wrong, against their better judgement, against their sober judgement, or out of arrogance, or for some other lame excuse. I repeat: ALWAYS. There is no cure for this; it is the human condition.

            Heretofore honest, loving family men sometimes steal to feed their families when they are desperate. Nobody says “they should have been taught not to steal”. Desperate people do stupid things. There is no cure for this; it is the human condition.

            The **ONLY** answer here (and it’s still not 100%, but it’s better than anything else anyone else is offering) is for the people who don’t want to be robbed, assaulted, raped, or made whatever other kind of victim, to take responsibility for their own safety by avoiding risk as much as possible — be it by avoiding bad neighborhoods at night, or avoiding frat parties — and by training and arming themselves to defend against attackers, from making sure nothing is slipped into their drink, to being willing and able to shoot a rapist.

            If one isn’t willing to take responsibility for their own safety, there is no logic in thinking someone else should do it for them.

    • Mike

      The problem is, the state of NJ does not allow one to defend themselves with a gun, knife, certain pepper sprays, taser, etc. This is an absolute war on women and it’s criminal to deny citizens the right to defend themselves. Teach your kids self defense, yes. However, a 90 Lb woman has no chance against a 220 man unless it’s equalized with a gun. Tell NJ legislatures and the Gov to make NJ into a SHALL issue state!

  • JET Self Defense Products

    Well, I think I’ve heard it all now!!!! The latest defense again a female being Sexually Assaulted is to “Practice your Anti-Rape Facial Expressions to Avoid Sexual Assault”.

    Wrong answer by a long-shot. We at JET Self Defense Products pr…omote that you take a Self Defense Class, train and certify when needed and carry a Self Defense Weapon such as a Firearm, Baton, Mace, StunGun or other Self Defense Device that you feel comfortable with. http://www.jetselfdefense.com

    http://www.womenyoushouldknow.net/nj-college-tells-women-use-anti-rape-facial-expressions-avoid-sexual-assault-kid/

  • Proud single mom

    See this is why we still need feminists in America. I can’t even. . .what in God’s green earth made them think this was a good idea or effective strategy? Let me guess a man came up with it. .

    • joepoli

      You didn’t hate the man that made you pregnant so why do you hate men you never met?

      • Cpt_Justice

        Defensive much?

        • TR Young

          Her comment of “Let me guess a man came up with it” negates any defensiveness that you are reading into joepoli’s question.

    • Stoney Burt

      You are probably right. However, not a normal man (normal man; kind of an oxymoron, huh)

    • TR Young

      You don’t have to be a feminist to know that this is complete bullshit. You don’t have to be a feminist to hate rape and those who perpetrate it. You only have to be a human being with a heart and a conscience.

      • MoreFreedomLessFreeloaders

        Come on now, this woman is a proud single mom! She is proud that she got knocked up and is no longer with the father of her child. That says a lot about her character, or lack there of.

    • Shawn O’Loughlin

      No, PSM, not a man, an idiot liberal-democrat came up with it. Someone who believes that criminals are the biggest victims of society, your life is not worth more than an animal who tries to do you harm and that armed self defense is morally reprehensible. Tell that to your child when he/she is a bit older and see how they fare in life when things go bad. I abhor anyone who harms a woman, I was raised that way, and raised my son and daughters the same. I also taught them how to shoot.

    • James Mcwilliams

      Nope, sounds like a very silly non confrontational woman who thinks rainbows and unicorns make everything ok. If it was a man I would be equally disgusted for taking advantage of silly weak womenwho expect the world to be covvered in bubble wrap with no rough edges because they can’t deal with reality without wine and xanax.

      • Cpt_Justice

        And you are doing some great victim blaming yourself1 Good job!

        • James Mcwilliams

          Who is blaming the victim? We’re talking about pure stupidity being touted as a self defense measure that doesnt work and will result in unnecessary danger.

        • TR Young

          Where is he blaming the victim? Please cite that for us, because I sure as hell don’t see it.

  • LissaKay

    Here’s an anti-rape face: http://i.imgur.com/hJxdWIZ.jpg

    • Marie

      That’s my kind of anti-rape face! My 9mm will do more to prevent a rape than anything.

      • Mike Santino

        THAT IS THE BEST ONE EVER

    • James Mcwilliams

      I like it! More women should learn that one instead.

    • MoreFreedomLessFreeloaders

      Yep, this looks a lot like mine.

    • Jackmeirod

      Yes, but just not in NJ. In NJ that’s your “I’m a law abiding person exercising my fundamental right to self-defense but the state is sending me to prison for 7 years for doing so face.”

    • Christina Gaetano

      When i was in High School we were shown a video that basically said that when you are with a guy and you say no and he starts to force himself on you, relax and go with it – until you can get your hand by his face and gouge his eyeball out of its socket. Make sure you do this correctly – don’t poke the eye by pushing in, but use your thumb in the corner of the eye socket, pushing down and towards the center until you are behind the eyeball and then pop it out. I don’t know if this movie was more instruction for the girls or warning for the boys, but I loved it!

    • Shawn Dillon

      YES!!!! THIS!!!

  • turks_kid

    Is this one of those “free” colleges which only require you to sit through some really shit lectures? And that IS what this is/was. As a man (don’t you DArE drop a stereotype on that!!) I’m offended for you. Mainly because of the assumptions it conveys about women. And the assumption that a facial expression will protect you. Carry a defensive device and do not be afraid to use it, (a young friend of mine carries pepper spray but has said she may not use it because it might hurt the guy, huhh?). Do not put yourself in a position from which you cannot escape. If you get drunk it better be with friends. We all have weapons on us we just don’t know how to use them. Have these dumb “educators” (sorry, there is a good chance a male thought this up but some female shrinks I’ve met can be equally naïve) offer a lecture in self defense, presented by a woman. caio

    • Catherine Kane

      or teach guys that rape is not ok. Don’t make this all about women need to be armed because guys can’t control themselves.

      • LissaKay

        Several 9mm rounds to center mass is an effective teaching tool. I promise you he will never try to rape anyone ever again.

      • Nick Palermo

        have you fallen down and hit your head, you just go on believing that, people who rape or kill are sick, they know it’s wrong but they do it anyway, but hey, you go ahead and make a face at them then let us know how that works out for you, you kumbaya liberals crack me up.

        • Cpt_Justice

          Not sure which is worse, your mis-placed blame or your illiteracy.

      • James Mcwilliams

        No, this ALL about women being able to defend themselves. Criminal behavior cant be “taught away”. But you can deter that behavior by not being an easy target. Do you honestly think men are all potential rapists soley based on the fact theyre men?

        • Cpt_Justice

          So are women supposed to take semi-automatic pistols to frat parties – so the brothers can take the guns away after the roofies kick in?

          And NO, you can NOT “deter rape by not being an easy target”. Because the ONLY way to “not be an easy target” is to never leave your house, or to have a police escort at all times.

          • MoreFreedomLessFreeloaders

            Maybe women should stay away from frat parties if they are all about slipping them roofies. And your comment about the only way to not be an easy target is to not leave your house is absolutely ridiculous.

          • InconvenientTruthsYouHate

            Intelligent ones probably wouldn’t go to frat parties in the first place, because they KNOW that’s where steroid pumped jocks drink too much and slip drugs into the glasses of stupid freshmen. That’s called “risk mitigation”.

            Semi-intelligent ones (who went anyway) would at least avoid drinking from anything they didn’t retain full control of the entire time.

            > “the ONLY way to “not be an easy target” is to never leave your house, or to have a police escort at all times”

            That is utter bullfuckingshit. It’s a false dichotomy / false dilemma. Your option might possibly qualify for “how to never be a target at all”, but that’s not what people are suggesting.

            People have simply been saying “don’t be an EASY target”, eg by going to frat parties, acting ditzy, drinking out of anything put in front of you, and then walking home alone at 3am. aka “don’t be stupid” aka “take on some adult responsibility for yourself for godsake” aka “stop blaming others for your lack of self control and good judgement”

            I don’t give a hall pass to the rapists for being so drunk/high/horny that they lost their sense of self control, and likewise I don’t give a hall pass to the subset of their victims who didn’t even TRY to protect themselves with at least good sense and caution, if not a weapon, too.

          • James Mcwilliams

            Uh, no. Being aware of your surroundings, not drinking till you pass out and sticking with friends instead of engaging in risky and stupid behavior makes you a more difficult target. But go ahead and let some clown get you to do 10 shots of fireball and then pass out. See where that gets you. Evidently you still think its everyone’s job to babysit you.

          • James Mcwilliams

            Oh yes you can deter that, or else your “Rape face” wouldnt work either. Or do you still plan to pee on yourself?

      • James Mcwilliams

        How about we also teach women that rape is not okay either. Coercion, threats and blackmail work both ways. Oh and how about we teach girls what to be aware of to help keep them out of trouble.

  • Rayc

    Most of these women already had anti-rape faces.

  • Ghostdog

    Stupid as.

  • Cpt_Justice

    Here’s what I posted on their site:

    “When
    you START any discussion on rape by “what woman can do to avoid being
    raped” you ALREADY ADMIT that you not only “blame the victim”, but you
    are going on the assumption that it’s WOMEN’S JOBS to avoid rape rather
    than MAKING THE RAPISTS STOP RAPING. And, “best” of all, you ENCOURAGE
    RAPE BY THAT STANCE. You show to the world that you agree with them that
    men are not just noth8ing more than sex-starved animals, who will “go
    off” on the slightest provocation (“she was drunk & just lying
    there!” “She was wearing a miniskirt!” “She was wearing red lipstick!”
    “SHE SMILED AT ME!”), but that they are ENTITLED & EXPECTED to do
    so! Why *else* would you NEVER ONCE discuss ways of DISABUSING THEM OF
    THAT NOTION, but rather CONTINUE to make women AVOID being raped?? The
    fact that no one’s ever pointed this out to you before (which I
    seriously doubt) doesn’t absolve YOU from being DAMNED STUPID &
    INSULTING TO BOTH (decent) MEN & WOMEN!”

    • LissaKay

      You know, when you can understand the difference between taking blame and taking responsibility, you might be able to discuss this without appearing to be a drooling moron. Work on that … then get back with us.

    • James Mcwilliams

      That is possibly the most asinine and insulting thing ever said about women when it comes to rape prevention.
      For one your assuming that only men are capable of rape and that its only women who are assaulted. You really need to get better facts.

  • Martha Range

    This is pure BS! A rapist doesn’t care about your face or even how you feel about it. They will take what they want anyway.

  • Mike Santino

    PUT ON A NANCY PILOSI OR HILLARY CLINTON MASK, EVEN VIAGRA WON’T HELP

  • Janoy Cresva M.D.

    Trust me. They are fine even without the expressions. A bum outside of wal mart that sucks dicks for cheeseburgers wouldn’t touch them.
    -Article NOT APPROVED by Dr. Janoy Cresva M.D.

  • John W Tobin

    The only sure way of never being raped is to make sure you yourself never put yourself in a position where you might be raped (like lock yourself in a cage). Making faces is not the answer. Awareness of your surrounding, knowing your own abilities, keeping your wits about you (being sober helps), and being prepared for any circumstance is a good start. If you do not wish to carry a weapon then you had better learn to make yourself a weapon, or know how to use whatever device is near you. In the case of any violent crime against you, the only person who you can truly count on, the only person who will always be there for you at that time, IS YOU.

  • PM

    The white Liberal’s best advice for defending yourself is “ant-rape face”, I guess that’s a step up from “hug a thug”.

    • Karen

      What???? What does being a liberal, or being white have to do with this article?? Turning rape into a political issue does not further the cause. Stop this stupid nonsense now. Geeze. Smh.

  • This is the worst ever. How could anyone teach this?

  • Phil

    Anti Rape face? What would make this college think a rapist is interested in your face? I’m not sure that is what the rapist is interested in? But it is a college and they do employ some really stupid people at times, But I think with this statement they are proving that they in fact hired some real dumb ass’.

  • Nikolaus Giove

    Teaharbor won’t pass any risks anyway.

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