If Famous Movie Romances Were Feminist

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“Women grow up watching movies that are all about ‘finding the one’ and falling in LOVE! But when you look back at a lot of the movie romances we obsessed over, some of them don’t really make a lot of sense. Would Meg Ryan really fall in love with the guy who ruined her business? Would Bella really have fallen so deep with Edward? What if these movie romances were a bit more…feminist?”

So sex education activist Laci Green presents “If Famous Movie Romances were Feminist”, a video montage of scenes from 7 cult classics that she’s recreated with a twist. By calling out some of the original (questionable, harass-y, creepy, and whoa… he did NOT just say that) dialogue and flipping the script, she gives us You’ve Got Mail, Twilight, Grease, The Notebook, Sixteen Candles, Love Actually, and Knocked Up with a whole new outlook.

This video is part of a weekly series by Laci and MTV called Braless, which gives an “uninhibited take on all things pop culture and internet.”

  • buddy

    So having an abortion is the only feminist response to getting pregnant in a one night stand?

    • Alex

      no… but it’s the choice they chose to highlight. get it? CHOICE is the theme here.

      • buddy

        In the original film the woman CHOSE to have the baby. This clip makes it clear that they thought it was the unfeminist choice and is very self-congratulatory in portraying her decision to have an abortion as the right choice.

        • Eleanor Abernathy

          “Self-congratulatory”?? That really doesn’t apply here.

          • buddy

            I watched the clip again, and I stand by that comment.

        • Boots

          Don’t think of it as “the right choice”.

          Think of it as “the right to choose”.

          Feminism is about the =right to choose= whatever option is best for the person in question.

          • guy

            Ill repeat the relevant part of what buddy said –
            “In the original film the woman CHOSE to have the baby. This clip makes it clear that they thought it was the un-feminist choice…”

            So I believe that buddy was was thinking of it as the way you suggested. Ill also agree with them on the self-congratulatory phrase as long as it is only concerning that last clip.

  • Ivanka van der Reest

    Eeeew… I love romance. I get the feeling that feminism doesn’t appreciate men trying to win a woman heart. If a feminist gets married it must be to a man who accepts her wish to live seperate, not have sex and if sex happens get an abortion. Sorry… but if it was up to this kind of feminism, picky and self centred and absolutely non appreciating, humanity would get extinct. I love the fact that we have equal rights in law system (being able to vote in elections, to work, payment). But I just melt when a man offers me my jacket and opens a door. If he wakes me up romantically when I’m asleep. There’s nothing wrong with being a lady and appreciating a real gentleman who’s making court to you. There’s nothing wrong with aknowledging that nowhere in nature male and female are the same (a lioness will hunt, a lion will defend against other lions, and I could take many more examples). Saying that men and women aren’t different is like denying all laws of nature in itself!

    • Jolie Lisa

      I really think feminism is more abot taking the creepy out of romance. If you have not encountered this phenomena you just havent been around long enough.

      • Ivanka van der Reest

        I’m sorry but who are you to judge if 26 years have been long enough or not? Who are you to judge me? Do you know me? Do you know what I have witnessed in my life? If you want the short version of who I am, what I have witnessed in my life, I can still go on for three full pages. Don’t judge someone by his or her age but by their experiences. And you know NOTHING about what I have been through in my 26 years. Facing death more than any person my age. Losing mom in 2010. Only to be dumped in 2011 because he didn’t expect grieve would take more than a month and I wasn’t the old version of me in 10 months. I have seen man who made use of my vulnerable state. Have been loved as well. And I know what I like and I know what I don’t. In 2012 I started loving a man who was such a gentleman to me. Opening doors, holding up my coat, respecting me, and I became the best version of myself. I became strong because of him. But when we married in 2014 suddenly all the crap came out. He argued with me about the most small things. Yelling always. Dressing in my cloths giving his feminine side some air. And the worst part was he cheated on me. And I stood up. After 4 months marriage we divorced. I did everything to make our marriage work. I was exhausted. Tired. And when he cheated with that travestite and I found out he had already been cheating in the time before marriage when everything was okay… yeah it pushed me to the point I had to do something I would never expected me to do (I once said if I marry I will never divorce). I know what I want from life. I have witnessed all kinds of aspects. I guess the only things I haven’t witnessed yet is having and raising kids, and dying myself. The first I don’t even feel the need to. I do not want children. Never wanted them and I always take precautions. But if I would get pregnant I would be the last to go for an abortion. Even if I know I can’t raise the kid. There are many people who try to become parents but can’t. Adoption is far better.

        • Tara (Beyond Hallyu)

          Thanks for your life story, but I’m going to be blunt here and tell you that personal experience rarely ever makes a halfway decent argument and actually the argument of being treated “like a lady” works both ways: Some women like being coddled by a man, some don’t. That’s not what feminism is about.

          The point this film is making is that 1.) stalking someone is not and should not be considered romantic regardless of the confession of love that comes after, it’s creepy and downright criminal behaviour 2.) Abortion is an option and shouldn’t be such a big deal 3. ) have some self-respect. A man ruins the business you so carefully built, and would a confession of love suddenly make that ok? 4.) rape culture is still prevalent. “Tell me more, tell me more, did she put up a fight?” gosh, what could that possibly refer to, given the rest of the lyrics?

          True, men and women are BIOLOGICALLY different, but feminism talks about how SOCIETY treats men and women differently.

          So you say adoption is far better, even when a woman is a rape victim and did not want to have the child in the first place? Even if victim blaming is commonplace in rape cases, with perpetrators saying “she was asking for it”? Even with the social stigma that rape victims in many societies face? And if you say yes to any of those things, you’re probably speaking from a very privileged position. Yes, there are many people who try to become parents but can’t, but some people simply do not want kids at all and they have rights and feelings too. Acknowledging the latter is equally important.

          • K.V. Lady

            I always wondered about that “put up a fight” line. “Putting up a fight” could simply mean backing away, pushing him away, blocking him from access to her breasts, genitals, etc., or even simply saying “no.” If she put up a fight and then he backed off as a result, then that is exactly what he’s supposed to do. But if she put up a fight and he continued kissing, touching, etc. her without her consent, then that’s sexual assault. In “Grease’s” defense, there was that scene at the drive-in where Danny wanted to go further and Sandy didn’t. When Sandy made it clear that she didn’t want to go further, Danny was angry (like an immature teenage boy) but he didn’t force himself on her or physically abuse her in any way. So I give props to Sandy for standing up for herself. Still, I was disappointed that she came back to him in the end, even going so far as to change her appearance and start smoking to get him back. She should have stuck with the cute football player who liked her for who she was and didn’t try to change her or pressure her.

          • god

            but Danny was the one that she wanted…

          • K.V. Lady

            But not until later.

        • Tara (Beyond Hallyu)

          It’s pretty hypocritical of you to say that you yourself don’t want kids, yet when a woman gets pregnant she should have the kid regardless of the circumstances in which she had sex, consensual or not? That also reeks of privilege since you never had to go through any of that and close your doors to however did. Yes, even if you’ve been with a man who cheated on you, that’s still privileged compared most women (and I’m talking worldwide). Your situation must have been terrible for you,and I’m sorry for that. But you make it clear you were actually in love when you married, which was a choice you made as opposed to women in arranged marriages, or women who are forced to marry their rapists , often with the idea that that would preserve their family’s honour, or women who are shamed for having sex (and enjoying and/or talking about it) at all. This still happens everywhere, not just in “poor” countries.

        • Katdog

          Ivanka, you just just proved Julie Lisa’s point–after your first comment judged and condemned every person who is feminist. Had there been more equality in your relation from begin, the “horribleness” after the marriage would have been apparent to you from the beginning.

  • Mari

    To be fair, Bella kinda… stalked him a little first…

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