Earlier in December we shared a video from HuffPo on the endless sexist comments women hear in a lifetime. “Don’t be so bossy.” “Don’t be a slut.” “Why are you getting so emotional?” “It must be that time of the month.” “You must have been beautiful when you were younger.” Those amount to just a few we are frequently subjected to.
But sexism isn’t only directed toward women and girls, men and boys also hear their share of harmful messages about what it means to be a “real man.”
In their new video, HuffPo presents “48 Things Men Hear In A Lifetime.”
“Boys don’t play with dolls.” “Boys don’t cry.” “You throw like a girl.” “Boys will be boys.” “Don’t be such a pussy.” “Dude, are you on your period? Man Up!”
Yes, sexism cuts both ways. Society has created ridiculously limited definitions of maleness, imposing unattainable and impossible expectations on boys and men. But what strikes us most about many of the messages in the video is that they are comparisons to being a girl or woman, because of course, what could be worse than that, right? (sense the sarcasm)
These messages aren’t just hurtful to boys and men; they are hurtful to everyone.